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writes:my boyfriend has really let me down.he always tells me never to give up on him..but how do you know if you've got nothing left inside to give?i don't know whether my effort is worth it anymore..please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, singmom76  +, writes (5 April 2010):
I am 34 year old single mother who has hung in there for way too long. You are still young, don't get stuck in a bad situation. The longer you stay, the harder it is to leave. Trust me, you have many more years to find someone who will not let you down. Have you read "Codependant No More"? I suggest that perhaps you may peruse that. When we get stuck in an unhealthy pattern, we tend to always expect someone to change...chance after chance. Their behavior ends up causing behaviors that previously we may not have had. I am not saying this is you, but its me. From my experience, people who stay in relationships with people who have "failed" us, tend to have these codependant behaviors. Get out now before this reactive behavior on your part becomes habit. I consider myself an expert on this. I always stayed and it ended up causing me severe depression, self-esteem issues and trust issues. Its inevitable that this relationship will most likely end, if its unhealthy. For you, this could be detrimental because these behaviors will carry over to future relationships and potentially cause problems. I know its hard, I am still here with mine. I just hate to see someone so young end up in my shoes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 April 2010):
If he's let you down, always telling you never to give up but always failing you, and you feel this way, then it's about time to give up. You have to stop somewhere. If he's failing you, and promising to change but it's not happening, it's time to end. I can tell just from reading your post that you've really had enough. End it now.
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