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writes:So my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 4 months now and we are completely happy, to be honest the best relationship ive had. There is just one thing, lately he has been hanging with me and my friends alot, which i love, but he is a huge pda guy. he always wants me by him, cuddling with him, holding his hand, etc. For example a few nights ago all my friends and him spent the night at my house and we all crashed on my floor. everyone was talking and lights were out, and he whispers to me, "can you keep your cool infront of your friends" and starts fingering me hardcore. This happened twice that night, then when everyone was on the couch he started again. I mean it was a huge turn on but i felt guilty the rest of the day. Then that same day we were watching a movie by ourselves and he starts again while my mom was down there washing clothes. My question is why has this started just as he is hanging with my friends and is this normal or some kind of fetish thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): Here is my two cents...
A lot of people (both male & female) get a thrill out of the possibility of being caught! They like doing naughty/sexual things in public places or just somewhere where they might be found just because it is exciting. I suppose this can be considered a type of fetish. I wouldn't necessarily call it normal, but I wouldn't call it unusual either. It's probably more of a turn on this way.
There is a chance that he is sensing that you enjoy it as well & continues to do so. If it is something you're not interested in, be up front with him & tell him that you do not wish to do it. He should respect your feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): Fetish, he likes public sex. This has nothing to do with him liking to hold your hand, this is about sexual pleasure and the fact that it turns him on to do something he's not supposed to. Like having sex while in the same room as your friends. Dont feel guilty if you liked it too. Many people enjoy this. I bet your guy would be thrilled if you returned the favour as well. If you are uncomfortable with this though, tell him and ask him to stop. Just say that it was fun to try it out, but its not for you and you think you prefer to keep these things in private, at least for now. Who knows, maybe down the road you will find it more of a turn on than you do now.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 It's not that weird, it's just something that turns him on. But if you don't like it, or it makes you feel uncomfortable, just tell him to stop doing it. You don't need to do whatever he wants just to please him.
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reader, Thecutehelper  +, writes (4 April 2010):
I might be a bit young but I have heard my older sis talking about this to her friends. Best thing to do is to gently talk to your bf, It sounds like he is tring to Impress your friends, or he is just very horny. About the fetish thing guys have different tendancies, i think it might be best to get your boyfriend alone somewhere and gently ask him nicely if he could calm down with the foreplay, when I say gently I mean it , trust me guys are sensitive no matter how much the portray they are so you got to put it to him gently. Good luck, hope I helped.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (4 April 2010):
 He's a horny young guy who's being reckless, as men tend to be. And by your own admission, you say it's a "huge turn on" so he's probably sensing that you like it. If you want him to calm down some, you have to TELL him to calm down, otherwise he's just going to be happy that he can do this with you.
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