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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:When is it the right time to walk away? I want to be back with my ex. I have been contacting him through a dice game, he had changed his phone number after we broke up when he went back to his ex. His ex didnt want to be with him, she just did not want him with anyone else. He left me because he said he felt obligated to her, even though they have no kids and were seperated for three years. . He said he shouldnt have gone back to her. He wanted to be alone, he didnt want a relationship after her lies. We have gotten along great, i never stopped loving him, i forgave him. Hes opened up to the idea of us , but right now hes on vacation at his exs mothers vacation home with four of his guy friends. I asked him if hed feel wierd, but he said no. I kthat it was free.. He hasnt sent me any messages through the game, nor blocked his phone number like he usually does and calls me. I know shes not with him. She has a boyfriend. He said before if he wanted a relationship hed give us a chance. We would talk through this game every day before he left. And he said that when he gets back we can hang out more. We are not kids, both in our thirties. But i feel wierd. I was at his house a week ago and asked him if i could sit and snuggle after we ate sundaes and jokingly he said no. So i sat across from him looking at the tv wantingto leave, but i couldnt move my legs or get the urge to leave. I felt paralized. He knows im on my last leg and really want the relationship back. He asked me to come sit with him and held me. He said he was only joking before. But still. I feel retarded. The night before he left he drove over to kiss me goodbye before going to the airport. So.. I see him changing, but i see all the little things he hasnt given into yet, like his phone number. His ex made him do it. That was a part of her stipulation of her coming back, even though she didnt.
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reader, YourCoach +, writes (9 May 2013):
The short and simple way out: leave him to his business.
You are so much more worth, than he is. It's about time you focus on your own issues, if there are any.
Leave him in peace and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2013): Its impossible to have a real relationship with someone who is secretive about his intentions towards you and has inconsistent behavior towards you. Don't even try as it leads nowhere. Either move on from him or severely de-invest yourself in his relationship and redefine it to be no more than casual friends with zero expectations. Most people would find it easier to make a clean break and move on.
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