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writes: I met this girl online and i talk to her online and on the phone, we get along great we can talk for hours i've mention a couple of times that i want to meet her in person, but never gives me a straight answer.I really liked this girl and i really want to meet her in person , How should i ask her, or what should i do...help. thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, amandairene +, writes (18 February 2006):
Cyberspace is both good and bad. The truth of the fact is you don't know who and what you are really talking too. It could be a guy, but his sister was on the phone! It's not a good idea, and I don't think internet romances last.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2006): I am in the same situation but I am the girl! I am afraid to meet my guy just because I am shy and scared. You always hear those crazy stories about girls getting raped, killed etc..Maybe suggest that you two could bring friends? That would help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2006): I once used a teenage online dating service for kicks, just to look around and stumbled upon a profile of a guy that seemed perfect for me. We talked online for a couple weeks, then on the phone for a couple weeks more, and ended up meeting in person. We arranged to meet in a public place (a museum) by the ticket booth and we both brought a friend with us. I ended up dating the guy for 8 months. It was a decent relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2006): You should always be wary of an online acquaintance who isn't willing to meet in person, it's a pretty good barometer for how truthful they're being.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2006): It essentially means that although you want to meet her, she doesn't want to meet you. She's probably comfortable keeping your relationship online and doesn't want to take it any further, but she doesn't want to tell you this to avoid a scene. Either way, don't push the issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2006): well i guess some people who like to meet other people online are on there for their own reasons...in my case i find it a lot safer than other methods to be able to talk to someone online. That way you feel 'safe' if u like. If you dont have much confidence as a person it seems like the only way to try to break out of your shell...you can get off line whenever you want without feeling bad about it...and yet it allows you to be yourself a the same time...this girl u speak of could possibly be in the same situation as me..if she wanted to meet people in person u most likely would have met her somewhere else besides on-line already ...In the long run whether u ever meet her or not, my bet is that you're really helping her to get back to who she truly is as a person...most likely she has been hurt by males before and is just playing it safe...pressuring her may only make her regret chosing online chatting as her only method of 'real' communication..whats the big hurry anyway? If you think she's so great it would be worth the wait...wouldn't it?...she's obviously not in a position where she feels safe enough yet...this may be her only outlet...however sounds like she's getn fairly comfortable with you..why scare her off or pressure her into meeting you when she's not ready? she might not be ready to be the person she is on-line in person yet!! Just let her know that you like her and keep it open..uno...make sure she knows you're keen but not to the point where she feels its an altermatem!! I think not knowing what someone is like in person justs adds to the mystery...she probably wants you to know everything about her and all she can about you so that meeting each other would just come naturally and not be such an 'official' occasion.. u sound like a nice guy i'm sure she'll want to meet you sumtime when she's ready...in fact she probably already does...what difference does it really make anyway?..she obviously stimulates you intellectually so how are you losing out there? Perhaps you could suggest to go somewhere at the same time without meeting...that way there is still mystery but you get her one step closer to being ready to meet you...if you know what i mean!! Try to view this whole experience as part of the adventure or challenge...i'd say!!what would be the point of meeting her on your terms if she wouldnt be able to be herself anyway? Take the time to get to know her and understand her maybe thats all she's looking for! Good luck i hope it all works out for you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2006): I once was asked to meet a guy online who i really liked and he really like me, but i couldn't meet him in the end as i was to worried of what he was going to think of the way i look and i was to shy! Im sure this girl is the same but all you need to do is reassure her and let her know you are nervous as well, so she feels more comfortable and relaxed and maybe invite some friends so it's more casual meeting so that then she will feel more comfortable
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