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*arah baghdad
writes:hii am a new comer to the U.S and I couldn't speak well-English when I just got there and I am a student in a HIGH SCHOOL . I've met lot of students , teachers and people who helped me a lot to improve my English skills and they're all proud of me because my grades are good and better than the regular student that was born in America.lot of teachers helped me during this period. but there was a teacher who is older than me in 15 years he is 32 and im 17 , I don't know where to start about this story because im so confused……………we're both from different countries ,religions. and we speak different languages but how did we understand each other that much?he helped me a lot and he was trying to excuse me from some of the assignments of his class because he thinks it really hard for me . but i had never listened to him and i always had tried to have it done on time or the day after its due. so he nominated me as his best student and I got a certificate from him that says im a special student because im a hard worker and etc.... he wrote really nice words about me ........ since that time I start to feel something toward him … we had so many funny situations together, one time I told him I was going back to my country because my visa is done here so I have to leave, he sent me back an email saying how upset he feels because im leaving and how he is gonna miss me so much and how i was so special student to him. He is famous in the school because he is so funny and so cool and fun to be around. From all his students he chose me to be this special student . That gave me more support to continue achieving my goals .And the first term is done . And I had him again for the second term and I was lucky . We got much closer to each other because he knows whats hard for me what I need help with and he knows how to deal with my problem in English … he wasn’t an English teacher but he tried to make it easier for me to understand his class .We had lot of funny situations that I still remember and I smile every time I remember it especially that I was the most student that he makes fun with and the last day of school I asked him to sign for me and he wrote a letter for me (a page) thanking me about being a positive influence in his life and how I possibly one of the most nicest people that he had ever metNow after all of that I feel like he was my life …. The school ended and all my friends don’t really understand my feelings as much as he does when I am in his class . I feel so safe with him because I feel like he is going to safe me whenever I ask him for help and even when I don’t ask I know he will be there for me to help . I thanked him for the nice letter that he wrote for me and every time he look at me I feel so special and it has all the feelings of (not sure but …(Love) and respect . I love his eyesWhat should I do?? Stay a way from him? Because I don’t want him to know what I liked him. But I want him stay with me and …. I don’t but …. Help me to not get him hurt because of me.i know this is normal thing to happenbut in my case its different . because sometimes i feel he likes me to but he can't do anything because he is gonna lose his job because we're not allowed to love our teachers.sec: my goal or what i want is how to get closer to him? i don't wanna be the one who starts it !!my grades are going down now, even tho I spend most of the time studying but I keep thinking about him, does he like me? does he love me but hes waiting till i graduate? what am I suppose to do?
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reader, sarah baghdad +, writes (14 November 2010):
sarah baghdad is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthats why I am not telling him that I like him, because I don't want him to get in any trouble and also because im shy.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 November 2010):
 He cannot be your boyfriend because he is your teacher. I suggest you find a boy near your age first, just so you understand guys and their feelings..also to give you a little experience in dating.
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reader, sarah baghdad +, writes (13 November 2010):
sarah baghdad is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe is not married , and I don't want to lose him at all, he helped me alot and he has lot of students as friends, but I love him , I need him and hes so mature and I don't like boys in my age because they're not mature at all, they just like to have fun with their partner , but me is different, I wanna have boyfriend who I know how faithful and loyal he is to me and he can safe me and stand by me anytime I need him, and thats how I feel when I am with him :(.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 November 2010):
For now there is nothing you can do, except for be a student and keep your emotions in check..Let him be a teacher. You've seen on the news in America that any teacher caught with a student is dismissed and will never teach again. Even any suspicions raised by students or other teachers for how he is acting towards you, he will go up against the school board and will be investigated. I highly doubt he's interested in you seeing as he's twice your age, I'm sure he's being nice. A lot of students misinterpret this as the teacher is falling for them.
I suggest you concentrate on your studies..they're more important than lusting after your teacher. Then once you graduate, if he's not married and with kids, you can still talk to him and tell him that you like him. Yes, you will have to make a move but only after you graduate.
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reader, mazzee  +, writes (13 November 2010):
You're drawn to him because he really seems to understand you. But you're right to know that this is wrong- at least in this stage in your life. You are letting your imagination go wild. Don't assume and don't push him because you could potentially wreck a great friendship by trying to turn it into something it shouldn't be.
It seems like you're putting this into two categories: stay away from him or get closer. He obviously means a lot to you as a friend so of course you won't want to stay away. But that does NOT mean that "getting closer" is your only other option. Stay in touch with him, but don't go overboard. I've known teachers who have gotten very close with their students, and love them like they're their children. They know these students well and are proud of them just like parents are.
Give yourself the chance to meet other people, don't put all your energy into this because you're just stressing yourself out. He was nice to you and a great person, but there's someone out there who you'll REALLY fall in love with and they will love you. Don't miss out on the chance.
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