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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months and he is incredibly moody and controlling. He will be completely happy one day and the next he is sad and nothing at all can bring his spirits up. When he is happy he is the sweetest, funniest, most wonderful man I have ever been with. But when he is angry or sad he sometimes makes me so depressed.W My roommate and I are moving in with him so we can afford to rent a bigger place and now he's trying to control her too (which her husband hates...hes in Iraq right now and can't help her out). The controlling is a recent development and I don't know how to make it stop. I love him but I am reaching my breaking point. He makes me feel guilty about everything...even buying me dinner. He hates my family because of how they treat me and how they treat him but he refuses to see them even though doing so would make things a lot easier on me. I don't know what to do because now I am stuck. I am taking so many classes this semester that I can't get a job until summer so I have no income because my family doesn't help and he's my only source for food, housing, clothing, etc. Help!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): Girl, get away. Get away now, get away fast. This guy is bad news. It doesn't matter about having a place. You're hooped being anywhere near him. Run.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (5 March 2009):
 Good Heavens! Why on earth are you moving in with him, for financial reasons? When you know what a control freak he is? You have got to take a step back and realize that those things that you have mentioned, the control, the mood swings, the separating you from your family and controlling when you're seeing them, are all HUGE red flags that indicate the potential that he is an abuser. Your already know that something is terribly wrong with his behavior. Please don't put yourself in harm's way by moving in with this guy, even if he can be sweet. You should move back home and get the heck out of there - and bring your girlfriend back home too - don't leave her behind, under his control, when his behavior is irrational.
Oprah's favorite saying is by Maya Angelou.
When people SHOW you who they are, Believe them the first time.
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