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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 11 months now. And I'm really happy with him and I love him very much. However, the past couple of days, I started talking to the guy I dated before him - just as friends though. This guy I have known for about 3 years now. We never became official, but we both had strong feelings for each other and were close, until he ended up getting with some other girl because I was too busy and never had time to go out. So we tried to be friends, but it hurt too much because I still had feelings for him. Over time it went away, and I got with my boyfriend. The other guy and I lost contact until a couple days ago. We started talking again and he admits that he still has feelings for me, but he doesn't want to ruin my relationship or his. I'd be lying if I said there were no more feelings for him and that I haven't thought about him a couple times within the past year. I feel so guilty because I feel like my boyfriend doesn't deserve this, but I love him. Shouldn't I be able to say "I love my boyfriend and I'm glad it didn't work out with that guy"? But I can't. I always wonder...what if we got together. He said he asks himself "what if things worked out between us?" too.I just don't know what to do. I want to be friends and I believe I can be friends with him. But I can't help but ask "what if". I need advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, coochy78 +, writes (5 March 2009):
 look, I can tell you onething the grass is not greener on the other side. If god wanted you to be with this other guy you would be with him. Just stay as friends. You and your boy friend are ment to be. if you and he love one another. do not let someone side line your relationship. It most likey will not work out in the long run. remember you know you love your boyfriend
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