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writes:I'm sure no-ones had a perfect life as a teenager and I've heard it is one of the most difficult times in life, but I'm always getting told that it does eventually get better, but when? Ever since being around 11 or 12 I've just hated life in general, I've never felt I fit in anywhere and I have no luck with friendships, I'm 15 now and finally getting some freedom from my mum which I appriciate, but I still feel down.Everyone seems to be out having fun whilst I sit in most of the time, I'm stuck between friendships and everything just seems a mess. This time of my life just seems never ending, I hate school and I don't feel I've got myself figured out as a person and my head is always full of confusing and upsetting thoughts.My main question is is it natural and this is just a very long phase of my life? I know nobody can predict my future, I'm just sick of everything and I don't have the energy anymore.I am very greatful for the things I do have in my life and I do realise how lucky I am, and the more I think about it the more I get down as I feel I'm just being completley selfish. Any advice would help if you read this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): When your decide what you want to do when you grow up. I realized I wanted to be a doctor when I grow. They make good money and I love thinking of my future. I already know every bone in the body. When adults see you are appling yourself, you will realize that the kids at school are morons for smoking or screwing around while you will be rich when you grow up. I always try to be productive because the more I do know the richer I will be tomorrow.
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reader, venisonstew  +, writes (13 July 2009):
I had very difficult teenage years. I spent most days after school in my room. i was on medicine during that time also. it does get better after high school. kids in school are mean and usually immuture. I had a lot of childhood problems which didn't help. once out of high school, although certain things do get easier, certain aspects are a lot harder. i would never want to be back in school.
what made my teenage years difficult was i couldn't admit to myself that i was different. i have bipolar and adhd. once i accepted that im sexually attracted to men, and had my first encounter it was a load off my mind. what fooled me is that i see lots of beauty in girls, even in girls most men aren't attracted to. i wish i had accepted myself when i was young, but everything happens for a reason.
i see high school kids and it seems like the older you get, the more immuture high school kids seem. i know that feeling of being sick of everything and not having the energy to do anything. dont let it get the best of you, the best way to deal with things is baby steps. also be very wise about choosing friends. i never had and dont have too many friends, but i dont hang out with dirtbags. better to have 1 or 2 true friends than 30 friends that don't really give a fuck if you succeed or fail.
hang in there and be smart about it. don't go sleeping around i know hormones can overpower good judgement, but it will hurt you in the long run. after high school life gets better. I PROMISE
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (12 July 2009):
 Everything DOES get better - it's just a matter of time. Sometimes people have little bumps in the road where they get over in a couple of months, others it takes years.
I'm sorry your having such a rough time, but I too have been there. I've lost friendships and I've lost boyfriends, and at the time, I couldn't help thinking when will this nightmare ever end!!
Now looking back on it, I am thankful for what has happened because it got me where I am today, with REAL friends because the fake ones left me behind and a boyfriend that I'm inlove with because the other ones broke it off..
Everything happens for a reason my dear, and eventually everything will fall into place. I can't tell you when it's going to happen, but it will.
You will realize where you belong, try putting yourself more out there. Go on little outings with your friends, dress up nice, and treat yourself to nice things that will make yourself feel better.
Just stay true to you, ignore little highschool drama, that won't matter a year from now. Someday you will be successful and the person who acted better in highschool will be sixteen with a baby, and the father left them both behind, and they will be struggling along.
Karma always makes its way!
Be happy!! These years are too precious, don't waste your tears, save them for a good suffering!!
xx
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