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writes:I'm sure this is a silly question, but I've read some answers on this site about how women like to be made to feel attractive, and that a man "looking" at a woman's body in a certain way can help make them feel sexy and attractive. Yet I get the impression that when I try to look at females with the intention of doing just that, I come across as creepy and a pervert...so what constitutes a feel-good look from a man, and when does it go from ego-boosting to creepy? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): Eh.. Women like to be looked at, if they like you. Simple as...
They pretty much decide if they want you right when they lay eyes on you.
Just, when you first meet, don't fixate on her butt/breasts for like 2 minutes without looking at her eyes/face lol. That's just weak. But a quick "survey look" isn't too far out of line.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): Personally speaking, I think it has a lot to do with mutual attraction. If a person is attracted to you, they will appreciate your checking them out and consider it a complement. If the woman is out of your league, she will feel like you are visually taking liberties with her...or at least that is how I feel.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (22 April 2009):
 Funnily enough, that actually depends on where you are from and what culture you have grown up with. So whether or not you are British, and depending on who you are scoping out, people are going to have different takes on if you are coming on too strong or not, and even THAT isn't taking into account the differentiations between people's personalities in general, no matter the upbringing.
Eye contact shouldn't be kept to the point where you are staring and she is looking away. AND yet, if there is an interest, eye contact should be held! So you have to be judicious in trying to figure out if the other person is interested at all, so you are acting on their own cues and "mirroring" their behavior. If they AREN'T holding your eye contact, then don't press it, and if they are acting a bit more interested, try holding it. It helps to know if they are blushing - BUT then you have to also know the difference between blushing and being flustered!
One good tip is to be more focused on them and what they are talking about than on your own nervousness. If you really pay attention and become a student of human nature, you have a pretty good chance of figuring out other people. If you are only focused on how to get from here-to-there, well, that's more about self-involvement and self-interest and "where is this going to get ME"... Most women are pretty smart and can suss out a guy who isn't sincerely into them.
It's never going to be easy, and it's always going to depend on your own individual personalities and chemistry.
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