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writes: I just can't seem to deal with all these problems. My car broke down about 2 months ago. My life is so much more difficult now without a car. I'm very sure I got an STD and scared of not being able to get pregnant because of it. Just everything seems to be going wrong in my life. Still not over 2 break ups!!! Not in school, had to quit all my jobs because I had to move to Philadelphia with my mom. Got locked up in a mental hospital against my will for a week and it was one of the most horrible experiences of my life. Later on I found out I have Bipolar disorder but I refuse to take medication because I'm scared it will change me. I feel like God hates me sometimes. I feel like I've done something very horrible in the past and that I deserve this. I don't know what I did. I mean anything mean I've done in the past was when I was young and immature. Anybody tell me how to overcome all this problems and not feel SO sad and depressed all the time???
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): Ivanna,
Hi - wow - not good times at all. you are a bright person. you seem to have a run of bad luck. This does not mean bad thing will happen forever to you.
you have listed oh about 27 things. We can't help with the car. (i know you are suprised).
lets try and take these one at a time -
the mental hospital experience - you have learnt something. sometime people react when you say you want to kill yourself - they try and do whats right- right for you.
they must have been worried for you and thats tricky.
if someone cares for you , you have responsibilty to them.
now inside the looney bin (i always think of jack in cuckoos nest) - you had a bad time - but you have learnt not to go back?
Not everything you go through in life has the devine right to affect you - you can choose if it does.
you say it made you worse - how?
now the medication - thats daft not to take it because it will change you - you will just be a new you. the people who ask you to take it do generally make people better?
the two break ups - whats the story there?
ok thats you recent past.
now your future.
if you could be anything or anyone who would you be...?
the world is yours.
Star.x.
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (24 April 2009):
Ivanna22 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Listen Pebble, I asked for advice on how to overcome such bad experiences, I didn't ask if you think it was right for them to send me there or not, I know it wasn't, it was a horrible experience and I was asking people how to overcome my depression because of all the bad things that have happened to me. I texted my therapist that I felt so bad I wanted to die. In my country that's a very common expression and it does not mean that I want to hurt myself or that I had a plan to commit suicide or something. She took it the wrong way, sent cops to my house to look for me, put me in a mental hospital in a mental hospital against my will and I cam out of there feeling even more messed up. That experience DID NOT help me AT ALL. It just made more damage.
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reader, pebble  +, writes (23 April 2009):
 And where did I tell her she was insane? 'Insane' was used by the poster. Something I find rather childish when talking about mental health problems. Having a mental health problem does not equal insanity, I get that, I've been there. And at NO point did I call her insane.I'm sure a lot of people don't think they deserve to be in a psychiatric hospital, but some of them do. A lot of people think they don't need medication for mental health problems but some of them do. I think only the poster knows deep down whether her behaviour was serious enough for her to be committed.If the poster still maintains that she was there by a mistake then ok, I accept that. But to be fair, she did not mention anything about it being a mistake in her original question.If the poster did not want to hear differing opinions then she should not have asked a question here. And just because I disagree with something that has been said does not make me ignorant. I have lots of experience with bi polar - that makes me far from ignorant!!You raise a good point about the industry thriving of people being unwell and I agree that some people are unfairly treated. However, some people need that help to live a normal life. Some people are genuinely ill and I bet most of them think they are fine.I stand by my point that change comes from within. And again, I wish you all the best.
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (23 April 2009):
Ivanna22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPebble you don't know what you're talking about. My therapist made a mistake for sending me there period.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): Pebble, I disagree with you. People are wrongfully committed all the time. People are wrongfully prescribed medicine ALL THE TIME.
The entire psychiatric industry thrives off the assumption that people are not well. They profit from it. Their profit goes DOWN if people are well. So they create demand, in many cases. You deny this?
I know your world doesn't seem quite as perfect and safe if you admit that there is shady and underhanded dealings, and profit motivated ventures, but tough.
Its far from productive to tell this girl she is insane and deserved to be committed. You don't know that! and its endlessly ignorant to say that. Wow. Just wow.
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reader, pebble +, writes (22 April 2009):
I'm sure you saw some horrible things in there, I don't doubt it, and I feel for you, but I will stand by my point that if you want things to get better, you have to make the changes yourself. I'm sorry that I did not tell you what you wanted to hear but you do not get put in a psychiatric hospital for no reason.
I urge you to look into some alternative therapies as I do understand taking meds can be a bit vile.
I wish you luck.
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (22 April 2009):
Ivanna22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPEBBLE you are insane!!!! I cam't believe you said it was for a good reason for me to get locked up in a mental hospital!!!! I was NOT in danger my therapisy is just a dumb bitch. You don't know the whole story so whatever. All I know is that that experience just made thigs worse for me. I felt even crazier after I got out of there and it took me a while to get over that horrible experience.
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reader, pebble +, writes (22 April 2009):
God does not hate you. You make your own future. If you want to get better then YOU have to make that change.YOU KNOW that not taking your medication will make things worse. You say you don't like your life yet you are scared of things changing. It doesn't make any sense. You also know that if you think you have an STI then you need to go to a doctor otherwise, yes, it will make you infertile. Simple as that. The longer you leave it the more damage will be done to your body.Understand that if you were locked up in a psychiatric ward for a week then it was probably for a good reason, like you being a danger to yourself or others or that you simply were not coping with life all that well. The sooner you recognise this the better. You refusing to take your medication is wasting proffesionals time and money. That medication and those doctors that are giving up their time to help you could be helping someone who is actually willing to get better rather than someone who is just sitting around, complaining but not doing anything about it.Maybe look into some alternative therapies for bi polar, there is lots of help out there! You're not the first person to suffer from it and you won't be the last.I'm sorry if I sound harsh, mental illness is difficult and scary I know that but, you have to take responsibility for your own problems and your own life. No one else is going to sort it out for you. You can either carry on complaining but not doing anything about it OR you can start making positive changes. It's down to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): Hi. Ok first of all you can go to free clinics and find out if you have an std for free. If not one in your area, then it is very cheap. Like 30 bucks. So that's one problem you can figure out and put behind you. And I suggest you do as soon as possible.
if you are in Philly, I assume that there is public transportation. You can get a job from where you are, and take public transit to it. Either that, or work close to your mother's house.
Mental hospitals can be a sham, just like any other psychiatric experience. That whole industry depends on the fact that people are not well. And in many cases people leave more messed up than when they came, similar to prison. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
Your happiness level is controlled largely by your seretonin levels. Seretonin can be raised naturally by excercising, thinking good thoughts and eating right. Medication can also be used, but not absolutely necessary. There is more than one way to fight out of depression. I suggest you do some research on google about raising seretonin naturally.
"anything mean I've done in the past was when I was young and immature"
You still have to come to grips with that. And forgive yourself. If you haven't forgiven yourself, then you don't leave room for anyone else to. Same with loving yourself. God doesn't hate. Only people hate.
It will be ok, do not surrender. Bless.
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reader, Darkness51986  +, writes (22 April 2009):
You need to be strong and talk to people that you consider are close friends. Life is hard but anyone can live a decent life. It's hard to give advice because I don't know you but it is good to talk to people about how you feel. I would get tested and look for a temporary job. I'm not going to try to solve all your problems but I've heard this quote and it works for me..."Don't sweat the small shit, and it's all small shit" You can still make the most of what you have with some effort. I know how you feel about getting over a break up though they suck. I hope this helps a little
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): We all have problems, I know that to you it seems the end of the world, but is not. Every problem is like a test that you must pass. Be patient and try to solve them one by one the best that you can. I would advise you to take the medication for the Bipolar disorder. It won’t change you for the bad, and I can assure you that if you’re cured most of your problems will be solved in no time and you will avoid many more in the future. God doesn’t hate you, maybe he’s trying to make you see or understand something you just haven’t been able to see or understand until now. I’m sure every problem has a solution you just have to deal with these stressful situations. Hope I was able to help you at least a little bit or that at least I made you think about it and come to good conclusions. Take care, the best of lucks!!!
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