When are you supposed to know if the relationship is just physical or there is potential for more?

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

so I started casually dating this turkish guy 9 months ago after initially meeting in a nightclub. the first 2-3 months were great, we would speak daily and see each other either every week or every 2 weeks. and i must admit i was extremely happy and infatuated. He kept telling me that a relationship at that time would be an option but difficult because of the long distance. after the 3rd or 4th date which was a month after meeting, we started having sex, then i had to go away to school in England for 3 months and returned this past March of 2010. Ever since I have returned we do not speak as much or ever and I only see him once every 3-4 weeks, if that and we mainly have sex. So my question: is there any chance of there being a serious relationship or is it just physical? He asked me if I had been seeing other people and i never really answered. I know we both have had pasts of having frequent "friends with benefits" type relationships but im looking for something serious and have too many emotions invested to let go of this guy automatically.

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