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writes:Hello, My fiancé and I been together for almost 6 years and about 2 years ago I've found a condom in his jacket pocket and I asked him about it and he told me it was from us from the beginning of us dating. And now I found another condom in his wallet and he told me it was the same old one from years ago! Should I believe him? I don't understand why he's holding on the condom or what?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2017): That doesn't necessarily mean he's cheating on you if that's what the post is about.
You can rest assured he practices safe-sex. If that accounts for anything. Is there an impression of the condom poking out of the wallet? If you can see the ring, it's been there for some time.
If you normally have them with you when you're single and dating; you tend to forget where you've placed them. As a gay man, I advocate using them all the time. Even to straight people, and women on birth-control.
My guess is they were put there a long time ago, and forgotten. They remind you to always be safe. Trust the expiration dates on condoms. Don't take a chance. Use only the fresh ones guys!
If he has a history of being faithful and a good man; give him the benefit of the doubt.
Just being male and having a penis doesn't mean we don't know how to control our urges. All men don't cheat. All women are not faithful. What's worse is the lack of visual evidence or stereotypes against women to base suspicion. Lets all naively just assume women can easily control their sexual-urges and are all inherently faithful. Then wonder who do cheating men cheat with? Only with oblivious females who don't know they're cheating?!! Most know it, and do it anyway. So give guys a break!
If my boyfriend searched my house, he will find old condoms with expiration dates dating back long before I knew him.
Personally, I've never gotten around to checking every nook and cranny where they've fallen, or may have been placed for convenience. It never crossed my mind until I read your post.
Don't worry about the unused condoms you find, it's the used ones that should sound-off alarms!!! Eeeew, the thought is disgusting!
I keep fresh condoms at all times; because I will not have high-risk sex without them. I'm responsible for my own health and safety. I trust him, but I still take precautions because that's just me.
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reader, Riot2017  +, writes (7 September 2017):
O.o
Not to be paranoid, but it's a red flag. The condom in his jacket sounds legit (we all find crazy stuff on our jacket pockets), but now in his wallet?
Do you know that condoms have expiration dates? I think you should check the expiration dates of those condoms to confirm his statements.
I would honestly stay alert, dial up your cheating radar, start looking for more red flags.
If he is cheating on you, at least he is taking care of his health, but that's not an excuse for cheating.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 September 2017):
 Suspicious. Let's give him a pass for the first time, and assume that he had been going around 4 years with an old condom in his jacket, without ever noticing it , or without getting around to dispose of it.
But , once you made him notice, rather than discard it, he promptly proceeds to put that same old , and expired, or soon going to expire, condom in his wallet for 2 more years of safekeeping ?
Uhm. Technically possible, I guess, but certainly not very probable ( nor logical ).
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 September 2017):
 Well, the Ladies gave you good explanations as to HOW to read the wrappers already so I won't go into that.
As for the condoms in the jacket - has he not USED that jacket since the beginning of you dating? To me, that sounds a bit far-fetched. Pretty sure ANYONE who uses a jacket on a regular basis (or seasonal basis) check the pocket - I know I do. I love it when I find a few $ here and there! But condoms? I can't see ANYONE not noticing that and tossing in at some point in 6 years. IF!!! he has worn it in those 6 years.
If it's a jacket that has been in the back of the closet for 6 years then... maybe - then the expiration/production date would also "match" being that old.
As for his wallet. I don't know. It seems weird to carry that around for 6 years as well. If he wasn't in a steady relationship I can see it, but for someone in a long term relationship? Not really... Why would he?
You might not like what you find. So you need to think ahead on what to do if it turns out he lied (or told the truth.)
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reader, YouWish +, writes (7 September 2017):
 I was going to post the product code thingy, but the esteemed aunt Aunty BimBim beat me to the punch!! Outstanding! I'm 5-starring her answer just for the efficiency!
Many condoms operate with a 3-5 year expiration date, and as AB has so eloquently shown, Trojan offers a 3-year expiry date, as condoms shipped with spermicide tend to have that 3-year date.
Either way, there's no way that the guy you're with would have stuffed that condom back into his wallet from supposedly 5-6 years ago, meaning you found his condom "at the ready", and he then, knowing that the two of you don't need them now, then placed it "at the ready" in his wallet??
Check that expiration date, and if you can follow up, post the number schematic for us here and we can confirm for you.
I'm sorry, but I do not have a good feeling about this, OP. While it's possible that he may have a condom fetish and love to masturbate into them (that's actually a thing!), the fact that he's made them socially ready TWICE doesn't bode well here.
Either way, he *is* lying to you. Now, as to what the true use for them is, that's still a mystery. Let us know what you find!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (7 September 2017):
 Not knowing either of you it is hard to say, but why did he transfer a condom from the pocket of a jacket he didn't clean for four years to a wallet .... are they Trojans?
Look for a string of numbers on the wrapping
Example: 06-2013 DA0156GG3
How to read:
The expiration date in this case is June 2013. The first two letters represent the plant. The first numeric digit represents the year of manufacture. The next three digits represent the day of the year of manufacture. Any remaining letters or numbers represent the dip line, foiling line, and the testing line. In the example above, the condom was produced on the 156th day of 2010.
I found similar information on the Durex website.
If the condom you found was produced in any of the years you have been dating there is a strong possibility his story doesn't add up.
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reader, holeymoley +, writes (7 September 2017):
 Check the date on the packet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2017): Look at the expiry datee on the condom. If it is that old it will have expired (they only last a couple years), if not then you have your answer.
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