What's up with me and my friend? Am I gay?

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I am caught up in a situation which I'm confused about. Basically I was married and my husband left me since then i have got really close to my best friend (who is a girl) she has a boyfriend that treats her like crap and they constantly argue and are forget breaking up, unfortunately she has a child with him so it's a bit hard for her to cut ties with him. Anyway when my husband left me she was the person I spoke to and has been there for me through my toughest times. I've also helped her through many tough situations and am the person she always calls for help and one of a handful of people she trust. for a month or so she was single herself and we went out together and I slept around her house most nights of the week. She is currently back with her boyfriend and he has moved in with her and is jealous of our friendship he thinks we are too close for women of our ages. This has made it difficult for us to see as much of eachother, I have noticed lately that If I don't see her I feel sad and lonely but when I'm with her I'm happy! I think i might be in love with her But the thing is when I think about having a full on relationship (sexual) it doesnt appeal to me. I think she feels something too but we have never mentioned it, and I'm no 100% sure that she fancies me. A few things she does that makes me wonder is things like she gets jealous if I see too much of my other friends and will say things like "i hope your not gonna replace me" and she gets annoyed if I don't reply to her texts straight away, and we text eachother everyday when i went away for a week she was constantly texting me and told me how much she would miss me. she is also very touchy feelie and makes a few sexual comments. but she blows hot and cold. She told me she has kissed another girl before, but i have only ever known her to be in relationships with men. But she is very flirtatious and has said a number of things that makes me wonder if she feels something. It's so complicated it's horrible but I am fed of feeling the way I do and I just don't know what to do. Am I gay or is there something wrong and I am imaging all of this?

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