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writes:im 15 and i got out with a boy in my year. he is so sweet and weve been dating for about 3 weeks now :) he chats to me for hours everytime he is on facebook or msn or anything, and we talk about everything. every time he has to go he says i love you etc. he ses we are meant to be together etc. last friday, we were meant to be going to the cinema together, we organized it and everything, when i was just leaving i received a text from him sayin "i cba tonight, next week? xx" i ignored the text because i thort if he rlly cared, he wud come. So i got my dad to drop me off at the cinema. 10 mins after the film started i text him asking him where he was. he replied "babe i text you saying i cant come, my aunties had a heart attack" its been 2 weeks since that, i still dont know what to believe. Also, around me online hes so sweet, i love him, he calls me gorgeous and stuff , but anything to do with his mates he changes and acts like we dont go out or he doesnt love me and he never sticks up for me, in school, he completely blanks me, and when i ask him can i sit by him at lunchtime, he says if its just you i would be embarrassed and it would be awkward for him. i really want to sit by him at lunch though, but my friends arent fussed, i dont know what to do with him? we are ment to be going to the cinema on tuesdday, help me please! i cant suss him out!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 June 2010):
Because like a lot of young men, he's just worried about what his friends will say. Young teenage man don't make very good boyfriends to be honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni understand where your coming from,but what i dont understand why he just completely blanks me in school? im his girlfriend for goodness sake!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 June 2010):
Okay, first of all, drop the whole 'ignore him and he will come' thing. There's not a man alive who will fall for that. If a guy can't make it, he just can't and you have to accept it. Fact is, he could't make it. So next time, don't make the mistake of ignoring the text. Just because he can't make it does't mean he can't care. At least he told you, which proves he does care. He could have just stood you up. From a male point of view, I have to say I don't like it when women look for more explanation or for hidden meanings, of play the 'ignore' card of 'silent treatment'. And neither do other men. 99 out of 100 times, a man will say what's on his mind clearly. So he's most likely telling the truth about his aunt as well.
Secondly, at his age, his reaction to you when you're around him and his mates is natural. Young men don't want to be made fun of by their friends.
In short, your relationship is coming along quite well actually. You're going out again and his actions around you suggest he really likes you. Just don't blow it by playing the 'ignore and he will come card'. It never works.
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