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writes:My ex and I dated for about 2 years and a half years. We were so in love and planned on getting married. We have been broken up for about 5 months now. We broke up for problems on both of our parts. Not long after we broke up he started dating another girl. But we still had a physical relationship and I spent the night with him quite a lot. Oh and the funny thing his whole family still thinks we date. So yes he cheated on her with me. I tried to end everything for good and cut him out of my life but that didnt seem to work. He said he only dated her because I got a new boyfriend. But i broke up with mine so he broke up with her. I wanted to get back together but he said I needed to fix my problems first. So i did and he didnt acknowledge it whatsoever. Now we still have a sex and spend the night with eachother every once in a while. I have tried so many times to cut strings but he always seems to come back. He will text me and call me until I reply. He says he loves me but he just cant be with me right now. but he will in the future and and cant leave me alone. So i personally think its pointless that he keeps me on a leash basically. Whats the point to keep me there if he doesnt want to be with me? and why cant he tell his family the truth? and what should i do?
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (4 January 2010):
 im in the same situation :/Im in love him but he only really wants to see me to have sex :/Ive decided to just leave it, and him, though the memories of me and him haunt me, the happy memories than bring me back, but i know its the better thing to do, as 1st love is called 1st love for a reason :/hope i helped x
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (4 January 2010):
He can only keep you on a leash if you let him. Just like he can only use you if you let him. He doesnt need to be in a relationship with you because you sleep with him whenever he likes and he doesnt have to commit to you. Leaving him free to be with anyone else if they are available to him. Break away if your not happy with the way your being treated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): Leave him right now; he's for sure using you just for sex. If he truly loved you, he'd know how you feel. I think he is a bad guy, just like my ex. They always ask to fix our mistakes first, why didn't they do theirs first- What a man!
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (4 January 2010):
"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" That's what he tells himself. He is with you because he gets free sex. And he doesnt have to pay for a dinner or try too hard to impress like he would have to do on a date with another girl. So he will sleep with you as long as possible. He also knows you give in when he wears you down or says the magic words. Just cut him off and don't answer his calls. Don't feel wanted when he calls because all he wants is sex. When he starts calling just switch off your phone for a few hours.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 January 2010):
Because he's getting sex out of you, that's why. He's using you. So either cut all contact, never reply to texts and don't ever bother with him again, or be his toy and second best. Just end it. He's using you because you're letting him.
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