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writes:Well i'd love to know the difference. i know adult love is more complicated but teenager love is also complicated and emotional too. but it's about ages and i don't know what's really the difference ? can anyone explain it to me please ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Nat8124  +, writes (4 February 2009):
Don't listen to anyone who says that there is a a difference. I think it is more a case of being emotionally mature enough to handle the situation and that doesn't automatically come with age!
Sometimes I think love is just love. It doesn't matter how old you are or how much you've learned in life. I'm not saying that I think anyone should go out and get married in their teens, quite the opposite, but I do think that the love we feel for a certain person as a teenager can stay with us for the rest of our lives because it can be the first and most intense sort of love we'll ever experience.
When you are a little older and perhaps a little wiser, you'll see that maybe our first young loves were not the people would should build our lives around but you'll more often than not think back to that certain person/s and the butterflies that can sometimes fade as an adult will flap around and you'll know that everything that you felt at 16/17 was completely and honestly real.
Good Luck!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 February 2009):
You do love strongly when you are a teenager. No one is saying that love at that age isn't real or intense or anything like that.
What they mean is that when you are an adult you can handle and control the feelings a bit better. You have had previous boyfriends and you know what is normal and what to walk away from. (Well most women do, others still chase after losers and then come on here to ask why they are treated badly...)
To give you an example, I was with my first boyfriend for 3 years and he was my first and I loved him so much at the time. I thought we would be together forever and get married. Yes we had problems and rows and sometimes he would make me feel like crap, but we had been together so long and I loved him so much that I knew he was worth it. Yes he would never be wrong or ever apologise and would make me cry a lot but I still loved him. Finally I went to uni and got the strength to split up with him. I thought I would never love anyone else again though, but that I had to be single and follow my career.
Then I got a new boyfriend (not a serious one) and I realised that I had stayed with my old boyfriend for about 6 months when I was REALLY miserable, just because I thought I was in love. Really I was just USED to him being there and couldn't imagine life without him. I was weak because I always had him as a safety net to tell me what to do.
Adult love is when you have been with idiots, broken up from them and you are your own person. You know who you are and what you want to be and if you find a guy who is perfect and heading the same way as you then great!
Teenage love is when you get someone who seems great and you fall head over heels and you have nothing to compare it to so it seems to be the end of the world when really it's not and you could be much happier alone.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Podge +, writes (4 February 2009):
 to be honest with you i think that it is entirely the same thingi think the term "kiddie" or "teenage love" is used to define when people think they love eachothe rbut actually dont. Im 16 and i think i am in love with my gf of 10 months and its rlly strong and its definatly more than the "love" i claimed to have felt with ,my previous crush.In my opinion its just adults thinkng that jsut because they fell in lvoe later in life then it obviously musn't exist untill your an adult.But my mum met ym dad when she was 16 and there still together as did most of my friends parents, sooo in that case it is the same.but thats jsut my opinion im sure many adults would beg to differhannah xx
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