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writes: Hi ya, I met a great guy about two months ago and since then we have stayed good friends. The night we met we had a drunken snog but nothing more but havent kissed since. Thing is im crazy about this guy, and would love to make the first move into recapturing what happened the night we met. We flirt round each other the occasional touch, occasional gaze into each others eyes but nothing else has ever happened. My mate has been badly hurt and is very wary of women but seems to have warmed to me. How is best to go about making a move on my friend, like most people im scared of rejection / humiliation, so some tips on how to start flirting with him so he knows I am physically / sexually attracted to him would be a good start. We exchange the occasional sex text when the mood takes us but thats as physical as we have got. Thanx
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reader, sjd +, writes (16 September 2006):
 It seems to me based on what you have said that he seems interested. It has been my experience that guys are usually more afraid than us girls to make the first move. Chances are he is trying to figure out the exact same thing you are. Most of my friends are guys and they always tell me it's a real turn on and stress relief when a girl whom they are interested in makes the first move! Chances are he is trying to figure out the exact same thing you are. Also if he has been hurt....he will definately be more hesitant and scared of rejection. Guys egos are much more fragile than ours! I once waited 3 months for a guy I was interested in and exchanged gazes, etc, to kiss me. One night I got tired of waiting...pinned him down on the beach and kissed him! That kiss turned into the best relationship I have ever had! On top of that...the worst he can say is no I am not ready! I'd rather take the chance of being rejected than go on not knowing. It does not seem as though you will be rejected...from your details...it seems he is interested in you! Good Luck!
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reader, Suzanna +, writes (15 September 2006):
 If you are exchanging the occasional sex text and flirting in other ways, especially eye gazing - you are well on your way. He is probably just feeling worried about being rejected as you are. I am sure that it is not easy for guys to always have to make the move.
I would suggest that you ask him out for a drink. Phone him up - if he rejects you it is easier if you are not face to face. When you ask him, speak with confidence (even if you are not feeling confident). After a bit of general chit chat say something like: "you know what, I really enjoy your company and would like to ask you out for a drink. Would you like that?". I BET YOU HE WILL SAY YES!
If you are worried about doing so, simply think that the worst that can happen is he can say no. It will not be the end of the world and he will feel very flattered and gain a lot of respect for you. But if you don't try, you have nothing to gain? Simple as that.
Besides, if he says yes, it will be great for your general confidence and self esteem and who knows where it might lead?
I bet you that a lot of guys would find a confident woman very attractive.
Good luck, NOW GO FOR IT GIRL!
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