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writes:I see my boyfriend at week-ends, as he lives an hour's drive away. It annoys me because he likes to stay up until 2-3 am during the week and by Saturday is not up to much. He likes to sleep in until mid day. I like to be up and about and not to waste the day. I spent my teens and twenties lying in bed all day, and then had a child who is now grown up.He has never had a family so maybe this is the reason why he is like this. I just find it so irritating and am constantly hanging around waiting for him to wake up. He is grumpy and rude in the mornings too, so it doesn't make it much fun for me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (29 January 2011):
 you two sound incompatible, he should have grown out of that behaviour in his twenties. personally it would drive me nuts.
if he's moody when he gets up and that only happens in the middle of the day, you aren't going to be able to do couple stuff with him in the daytime. whats the point in a relationship that isn't fullfilling you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): It sounds like you're not very compatible in some ways.One issue that jumps out - do you always go to see him? Get him to come to you sometimes too!On the other side, why should you dictate his sleeping pattern? Some people are night owls, who feel more awake at night and are not energetic in the morning at all. You could just as easily come later and stay late, as he could wake up early.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (29 January 2011):
Yeah I was going to say, I was expecting this question to come from a 16 - 19yr old. Isn't he a bit old to be this way now?It comes across to me like he really isn't making much of an effort to have a relationship with you. Is he happy with how things are? Maybe you both want very different things from this relationship?
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (29 January 2011):
 I know exactly how frustrating this is, as I was with someone for quite a few years who was the same.I never was able to alter his sleeping pattern in all that time...by god I tried hard enough believe me. I even used to put the hoover on at 9am and start hoovering around him, but that didnt even work. I used to get wound up about it, but it just got me nowhere ... so in the end I used to just leave him stinking in bed and I would do my own thing. For you I guess it depends how much more of it you can tolerate and what you want out of the relationship. Only you can decide if you want to be with someone grumpy and sleeps all day. I assume you have tried to talk to him about this??
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 January 2011):
I think you need to spend time working out whether you want to be with this guy. Sounds to me like you're two different people, and that ultimately this is something that will cause problems. There's hardly any point in you being with him if all he'll do is sleep and be grumpy. Also, are you the one driving to see him all the time?
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