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writes:i'm asking the readers this, male and female, young and old, to answer the age old question of how old is the right age to have sex? is it based on how you feel about your partner? the legal age? Your religion?please answer for all the many readers as I would appreciate an appropriate answer. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): I think you need to be ready for all the responsibilities that come with having sex, that is why it is best to wait untill you are married. You need to be stable minded and have good judgement and decisionmaking skills, this usually comes after your highschooldays and you start making other major life decisions like going to university or getting a job etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): Well, if you go by legality, then it's 16-18 depending where you live. If you go by romance movies then you'll just know. But realistically, the smartest thing to do is wait until you're married. It just makes sense. Good luck :)Abby
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reader, Birdman21  +, writes (29 January 2011):
In all honesty, the previous posts are right, don't do it until you are ready for the experience. It is a big deal.
However, studies conducted by the WHO and a few other major organizations show that the age of lost virginity varies by country, largely due to the factors you mentioned (religion, culture, women's rights in said country). Legal age isn't ever much a factor.
The average age of first intercourse in the Westernized world, (US, UK, Australia, France, Germany etc.) is about 17.5 for guys and 17.0 for girls, with a deviation of .3 years. (Meaning if you are within .3 of either age your still in the average.) This number can be much higher (India's males, largely due to the arranged marriage don't lose theirs until early 20's, while girls who are being married lose it at 15-16). Meanwhile, African nations report that teens are doing it together as young as 14 or 15, so there really isn't a set standard. The age of consent in most nations is 16-18. My girlfriend and I did it the first time when I was 17 and a quarter years old and she had just turned 17. (the age of consent in our state is 18, doesn't really matter because its damn hard and pointless to prosecute such charges.) Just be comfortable with the guy, age isn't really a factor unless he's 3+ years older than you/
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 January 2011):
For me, I was with the right girl at the right time (above legal age). It just felt right, and that's how I knew.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): I would always say above the age of sixteen. Younger than the age of sixteen, you're not mature enough to deal with the consequences, both physical and emotional, that having sex has, and the changes it can make in your relationship, assuming you're in one. At the same time, I don't think that you should be jumping in bed with anybody just because you've reached the age of consent. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin at 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25... the list goes on. The point is you should be having legal sex when YOU feel ready to, not when someone else tells you you should be ready by. Waiting to marriage is fine, as is unmarried sex with somebody you love and care about. I also believe that the ideal time to lose your virginity in a relationship is on or just after the 6 month mark, when you are in love and care deeply about each other. It should also only occur when you feel comfortable discussing sex with your partner- if you can't discuss it, you're not ready to do it. And, I'm a firm believer that you should discuss what you would want if the worse case scenario (pregnancy) was to occur, BEFORE any physical intimacy takes place.
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