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writes:Hi there,A few weeks ago my guy mate and I were fooling around on my bed and ended up kissing. I'd never looked at him in that way before, but I got the feeling that he liked me. Since then we have made out on several occassions but only in private and very few people know about it. But we both kind of said that we would just take things slow and see how it goes. He also mentioned before that he didn't want to hurt me as he had had a few difficulties in his previous relationship.But I know want something more. I think about him the whole time and get really angry or sad when I don't see him or if i feel he is ignoring me. We are shortly breaking up for the xmas hols and I know that I am going to miss him terribly. I don't know how to tell him that I want us to be more than friends with advantages. But I also can't help feeling angry with him as he initiated the first move, had he not we;d still be friends and I wouldn't have developed these feelings for him. I think he does still like me, but is scared of getting into a relationship because of previous experiences.Please give me some advice on how to approach this situation! THANKYOU!
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (3 December 2007):
One thing is for sure, he'll never be the friend he used to be because you've fallen in love with him. 1st thing is decide which is more important to you he's friendship or intimacy. If you feel fed up with being friends and crave for more, tell him how much you want him and that you can't take it anymore and that you don't care whether you hurt in the end but all you want is him. If you convince him, you nust know that your friendship will definitely change. If he still insists on nothing more, it's time you found a boyfriend and stop spending the whole day with him because it will disturb you everytime you are with him.All the best.
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (2 December 2007):
 He cares about you because he doesnt want to hurt you like he did with the past relationships and your friendship means a lot to him. As hard as it may be, accept his decision and try to understand where he is coming from. You can try talking about this with him asking him if he believes if there would be anything between the both of you more than just friends. Talk to him and let him know how you feel. He might even feel the same. He has to get over his own fears of his past failures so you should try and help him with that. Let him know that one failure can lead to a sucess. Help him get through this fear he has.
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reader, alf51175 +, writes (2 December 2007):
Can't go wrong with honesty. If you like him then tell him.
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