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writes:Granted I myself am not very well equipped, unless you consider 5 inches long and 4 inches in girth as well equipped, I don't understand what's so great about big penises and why girls seem so attracted to them.Do big penises actually feel better than smaller ones or is it just a visual stimulation to them?And I don't understand why girls seem to freely make fun of guys with small penises. I couldn't pick out my size, I just sorta wish that they'd be a bit more accepting of the fact that I'm not exactly a horse. ._.It's hurtful when you're basically saying I'm not good enough for you because my penis isn't big enough!Ugh! What can I do to make myself just as wanted to girls, sexually, without having a big penis?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): Why are guys so obsessed with their penises? Learn Yoni tantric massage, that would give a girl some pleasure, not the size of it.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 as i said before look up position that are better for more penetration and make sure you know how to use clitoral stimulation to give more of a buzz just because your penis is smaller doesnt mean its any more useless than someone with a penis size over 9"-12". just know your basics and the rest is history :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAh, thanks. I appreciate all the responses.
And no I'm not just going around telling girls what the size of my penis is.
I had a bad experience about that with a girl once and basically she and her girl friends started to tease me about it.
I wasn't concerned about this until that incident.
To be honest too, I'm more or less closer to 4 inches in length and not 5. How much of a difference that makes, I dunno. :X
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010): why do guys make fun of girls with small breasts and act as though they aren't good for anything. They serve no purpose during sex except something to play with. Seriously, size is not important. What is shown in porn is not what real life women want. Stop stressing
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reader, Miamine +, writes (30 July 2010):
 The big penises hurt, they are too big, they hit the cervix and cause pain if the guy is not carefull.. we are not built to get all of the penis in anyway. Takes too much energy to relax enough for the vagina to expand and take the stretching...
We will tease you about small cocks, because some women are nasty and some want revenge.. but the reality is... when it comes to sexual intercourse, Mr average, (7inches and under) is perfect..
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (30 July 2010):
 hey big dicks are pretty great but i can appriciate a smaller one too, it can be more comfy than a big ol' huge one. but for me if you're under 5 inches you'd better find out how to give great oral sex. lol
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reader, Miamine +, writes (30 July 2010):
mmm.. yes eyes.. big penises make a good size to dry the teacloths on, but they are too big in the bedroom.
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reader, Carina1993 +, writes (30 July 2010):
The only reason women like them big is because it's a genetics thing. It means in primitive terms that a man has good genes, Is well bred and fertile. Web thought that's not necessarily true q
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): It's a myth that big penises give a woman more pleasure.
Ever heard of the saying, 'it's not the size that counts, it's what you do with it? It's true. In fact, men with bigger penises don't seem to try as much as they don't think they 'have to'. You'll find a lot of women will say a smaller penis gave them more pleasure than a bigger one.
You saying women find bigger penises more attractive all depends on the person as everyone's different. I find them pretty ugly to be honest. It's like saying why do men like big boobs? Well, not all men do. And the ones who do, there's not really an explanation for it, it's just what people find attractive.
But yeah, you'll also find big penises HURT more than pleasure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): In all honesty dude, I think any resonable woman will be happy with anything that isn't absolutely tiny or overwhelmingly huge. So over 4" or under 8"...which is like 99 percent of guys out there. every guy wishes he could be bigger...we just assume that bigger equals a more intense experience, so it has to be better. While i think for some women the "intensity" of a large penis is pleasurable, for many it's not. And for those where it is, it's probably not simply the size that is so pleasurable...its a combination of the guys confidence and sexuality that goes with it. So turn on the sexuality and confidence, along with technique, and you'll be as good, if not better than the big guy. And if you really do run into the "size queens" out there...oh well, if all they want is a huge cock, that's all their gonna get. Finding a guy with a big dick, who's also a great lover, has a great bank account, is husband material and isn't totally insensitive to a woman's needs must be like winning the Powerball. I pity the women who wait for that shit, just like I abhorr the guys who think only a huge breasted supermodel is worthy of a wife. This size thing makes me sick. Average is like 5.5 inches. Be glad you have average. Many guys are much smaller.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 July 2010):
 I think you are watching too much porn if you think ALL women want huge "hung like a horse" guys.
WHAT is really good is a couple who are matched in appetite and physically FIT each other. Be he small or big.
Girls who makes fun of small dicks, need to grow up.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 July 2010):
 Well one nice thing about a big penis is if you go camping and forgot to pack the tent pole.....
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (30 July 2010):
 Are you somehow announcing to girls what your penis size is? Why would they know in the first place?
Clearly, the girls who are making fun of you are ridiculous creatures. Ignore them. I think you are fishing for a girl in the wrong pond; this one seems to be a festering stink hole. I would suggest you look for a girlfriend elsewhere. Pay attention to the girls who people seem to overlook and one who is interested in the whole man, not just the penis.
Honestly, for most women, I hate to burst your bubble, but it's not about the penis. Really. Penises are lovely and feel nice and everything, but they are not the center of OUR sexual experience. They may be the center of yours, but we have slightly more complicated equipment. We have this thing called a clitoris, which is like your penis, and while the vagina is very important, it isn't necessarily the core of our sexuality. We're more of a complex--the clitoris (which is much larger than the little nub you see on the surface) and our vagina and the rest of our bodies and our brain.
Here are some links for you to read. They might help you understand the feminine side of sex a bit. And stop announcing your penis size to the girls. That's just kind of weird.
"Ninety per cent of women feel that penis size doesn't affect their orgasms, according to a broad survey conducted for a women's sex magazine." http://www.malehealth.co.uk/node/18960
For the vast majority of partners, penis size doesn't matter."
http://men.webmd.com/guide/sex-fact-fiction
Paget says there tends to be a "huge disconnect" between men and women in the ways that sex feels good.
"When a man has intercourse with a woman, and his penis goes into her body, that sensation is so off the charts for most men, they cannot imagine that it isn't feeling the same way for her," Paget says. "It couldn't be further from the truth."
The inside of the vagina is probably less sensitive than the outer parts for most women. Also, deep thrusting may not feel so nice on the receiving end. If the penis is too long, "it feels like you're getting punched in the stomach," Paget says. "It makes you feel nauseous."
http://men.webmd.com/features/6-sex-mistakes-men-make
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (30 July 2010):
I will never understand why guys believe the only way to please a woman in bed is to stick something in her. And the bigger it is the better.
Woman will make fun of a guy's package because they know most of us are self conscious about our package, just like some girl are self conscious about their boob size. It's also a sure way to tell a guy to F-OFF and leave me alone.
When a woman comes back to you for more sex...It's the right size. Most cases she comes back becasue of the man the penis is attach to, not just the penis.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (30 July 2010):
 I'm not sure which girls you've been talking to. Big penises are nice to suck on but I've rarely found them good for much else other than a lot of pain.
Five inches is very nice and with good technique, you should be very desirable indeed.
Granted, something like 2 inches would be too less to work with, but if anyone's making fun of you at 5 inches, they need to get their head checked.
On the other hand, if it's your male friends making fun of you or telling you that women will make fun of you, safely ignore them.
The "women only go for big cocks" thing is a porn trope. Real life is a lot nicer to normal men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): I guess that from what you have experienced, it must seem like girls in general are only attracted to guys who are big down there, and think any guy of a more normal size is a joke. Firstly, I would have to say that I don't think this is the case. If you were to search this site for similar questions,I think you will find that most women say size does not matter. In fact, some women are even a bit put off and intimidated by guys who are really big, as it can be uncomfortable when trying to have sex.
I think it is similar to women who wonder why guys are only attracted to girls with big breasts. This isn't necessarily true. Okay, some guys do prefer big breasts, but I think a lot of guys are happy with any shape or size, and if they like and care about the lady they are with, they won't care about things like that anyway. But in the media and society in general, so-called "sexy" and "attractive" women are typically portrayed as having big breasts. So it can make women feel that this is what all men want.
Maybe it is the same for guys too. Girls may joke about the size of a guy's penis, and the media and magazines may define a guy's sexuality by how large he is down there. But the reality is that most women are not concerned with things like that, and again, if they care about a guy they will not be affected by something like that.
So maybe it is the people you hang out with? It could just be the way they are. Especially if they are young, they may joke about things like that. I don't know if I am doing a good job at reassuring you, since I am not a guy and don't know what it must be like. But to me, it sounds like they are the ones with the problem, not you. They are obviously not the right types of girls for you, but there are lots of women out there you will meet in your life, and you will one day find someone who is not concerned with things like this and does not make fun of people. Again, I know it is easy for me to say this, and maybe not as easy to believe. But I really think you have nothing wrong at all, these girls just sound rather silly. I hope this helps somewhat, good luck. x
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reader, Miamine +, writes (30 July 2010):
"Why girls seem so attracted to them."
Who told you that girls like big penises? Where did you get that idea?
Men like to measure penises, men care about their size... If you ask women we will tell you...
WE DON'T BLOODY CARE... IT'S NOT THE SIZE, IT'S THE TECHNIQUE.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (30 July 2010):
you sound like your in the average bracket of penis size. but no big penises arnt everything its how you use it women do talk about bigger ones which sometimes their is less work to be done but altogther i say my opnion is know how to use it is much better than length or girth. its not funny matter when it come to guys and size its not like they get a choice but if you knew how much women laughed at boob size youde feel a bit more normal oh its too big or no its tooo small geez in this world its hard to keep people happy and thats the sad thing.. as long as you know how to satisfy your woman then nothing else matters.. best you can do is figure out better positions in which your size would do better and always give plenty stimulation encase penetration isnt enough as some women cannot orgasm with penetration alone.. i personally think your giving yourself a hard time, if women are being mean tell them their stuck up b*****s lmao.. hope that helps aphex
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