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writes:Three times I went out with a guy who I met through dating app, on the first date he said he deleted his account on dating app, but he has not and he has been seeing other girls. But he constantly keeps asking my whereabouts and what I've been doing on a daily basis through text message. But he doesn't share anything with me. And he asks me where I've been, with whom I've been, like I owe him something. He is not even my boyfriend. And I would not say the date was awesome either. After second date I did not feel like going out with him but just to double check what's his deal went out 3rd time. It was bad, nothing special.
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reader, Dizzy66  +, writes (11 August 2022):
 If the date was "bad, nothing special" why are you exerting the energy it takes even thinking about the guy.
Block him on the dating site and his number on your phone. Job done. Move on :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2022): You are making a time consuming drama out of nothing.
Get a life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2022): "It was bad, nothing special."
Then ghosting the daylights out of him should be a sheer delight!
FYI
He's keeping a foot in the door. Testing how desperate you are for a boyfriend. Which means you'll stay accessible; even when you know he's a player. As long as he knows he can contact you; he knows you're still game. He'll keep you in-mind when his schedule is free, or the well dries-up. Not sure why you even care what the deal is?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2022): Going out on one date with someone is nothing, you just move on if it does not work out. Why do you make such a huge issue out of it, its not worth all this. Get on with the rest of your life and forget it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 August 2022):
 Sounds like he is making a lot of presumptions about you and women in general.
YOU do not OWE a guy you are going on dates with an itinerary of your whereabouts on demand. EVER. If you are seriously dating, you don't either, nor if you are married. Of course, many people who are in a serious relationship or married SHARE what they are up to, who they are with and where they are at but it's NEVER owed.
I would just wish him well and tell him you don't see the two of you being a good match, DO not get into the nitty-gritty with him. You, again, DO NOT owe him anything.
After that? BLOCK him Delete his number and move on.
Don't try and read his mind or figure him out. He isn't a puzzle, he is a dude you went on 3 dates with that IS NOT a good fit for you. The End.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (7 August 2022):
 Not sure what you are asking. You went out 3 times with someone who you should really have only gone out with once, definitely not more than twice. The dates left you cold. Tell the guy it's been nice meeting him but you don't see a future for the two of you, then block him and move on. Why are you wasting your time on him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2022): "But he doesn't share anything with me. And he asks me where I've been, with whom I've been, like I owe him something. He is not even my boyfriend. And I would not say the date was awesome either."
BLOCK HIM!!!
Then what does it matter? That makes it easier to just move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2022): testing
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2022): So let him go - don't answer him.Ghost him.Or block him. Or tell him politely but firmly not to contact you anymore. In short , get rid of him and move on. What do you care what's his deal and what he could possibly want from you ?..What do YOU want from him ? Nothing - you went on 3 dates , you two did not click, - it happens, no big deal and no need to easte time and thought on this.
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