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writes:I am getting well into my 20's and I have no girlfriend and have fallen into a bad habit of sleeping with prostitues again. I am genuinely quite a sensible person I do not like doing this at the risk of cathing an STD, I always wear protection but have been told to be careful when it comes to sleeping with prostitutes. I have quite low-self esteem, especially when it comes to meeting new women.One of the reasons for this I guess is because i am conscious about the size of my manhood. I have had a few horrible events when a girlfriend and friends pointed out the fact that it does seem quite small. I try not to worry about this and not to let it burden me but sometimes it does. The fact is this has knocked my confidence and find it very hard to gain my confidence back. Most of my friends seem to be in relationships and this makes me incredibly lonely. If I don't pull on a night out I have an incredible urge to sleep with a hooker and I often sucuumb to this. Please help as I don't want to carry on down this road of sleeping with hooker's, wasting my money and possibly putting my health at risk. I would like some advice on getting over this and finding a girlfriend or companion sometime in the near future. If not how can I fight the urge of sleeping with prostitutes?thanks
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reader, sha9991  +, writes (20 February 2011):
Hi,
I am sorry to hear,that you feel you have to pay for sex, so you feel excepted as a man!
That gfriend you had was nasty and cruel,that's all not all girls are like that and you must believe that,size isn't everything to a women,cuz you can please us in many different ways,etc,oral sex and toys are fun! :)
You just need to build your trust back up with women,but make sure you get into a loving relationship first before you have sex,she will love you for who you are,not for what size you are in you pants!
With wanting to be with hookers all the time,you like feeling wanted,but they don't want or care about you,all they really want is your money,that's it purely business and you are a client! Is that all you really want to be to a women? Maybe it's becoming a bit of a addiction,I think you should seek help for this,like with all addictions,you don't control it anymore,it controls you!
I hope I have helped? All the best! :)
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reader, hpoco  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 I really think you should see a therapist and discuss this. Its a potentially serious fetish, that seems to have deep roots in your self-image and your expectations in a relationship. I would strongly advise you to seek out a professional psychologist/counselor and tell them your problem. Truly, good luck to you.
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reader, JoeDhon  +, writes (20 February 2011):
my advice to you is:
get a gf
put efforts in the relationship
if someone is openly commenting about your dick size, maybe you jumped to sex too early.
get to know the person for slightly more than usual.
try romance, to keep your girl around
dont do anything cliche, or rush to get in bed.
try something new like online dating or something
(dont go for party girls... go for smart women)
i dont know any technique if youre not well endowed.
but know that sex is not about d!ck in pu$$y.
try making love... add some passion. aggressively
don make your foreplay too long but pleasure your girl with options you have(things you cant do to a h0e)
ps:dont set her expectation too high... just focus on romance a second
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): It's very smart of you to acknowledge that you shouldn't subject yourself to that type of behavior because the only 100% effective form of birth control is abstinance. Plus, prostitution is illegal. Your foundation of your problem is the lack of self confidence. To help your self confidence, start out by saying three good things about yourself everyday. If someone gives you flack your size, just brush it off and let it go. It's none of their business anyway. I'm a woman, and I will tell you that size doesn't matter, it is how you use it to pleasure someone. Keep in mind that we girls like foreplay. If you start being friends with girls, then it is very likely it will turn into finding that special someone. Keep your head up. I believe that you'll find someone special some day.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 It's russian roulette! One morning you WILL wake up and say,"Oh me, i wish I'd not done it with that last on!" Yeah low self-esteme is right..more like a eath wish..go visit an aids patient, you'll quit!
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