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writes:What's happening to this world? Every time I'm here everyone is talking about sex, even 10-11 year olds, what happened to childhood? I didn't even know what sex meant when I was 10, there must be something to do, I can't take seeing some girls getting pregnant at an early age, not living a full life, am I the only one feeling this?! Reply to this Question
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reader, PLAYFUL  +, writes (18 November 2008):
 I know it seem like every thing is all about sex that something that's always the topick of every day life I'm 18 teen and it seem like I was the only 18 teen year old
that did talk sex and havein sex I just don't think I should just yet and all my friends have babys and they ask when I'm going to have mine and I tell the I'm to young for kids but they make it hard to say no to them but this is something that should not be so lightly so I get what ur comein from.....xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): It's really sad. Children are taking on Adult Problems (sex)when they should just have fun being kids. Even if they waited until 18, they'd still have about 60+ years to experience sex. My daughter wears a purity ring (she bought it herself). I'm holding my breath, but she acts sincere to wait til marriage. She's 17 and recently told me about every girl in school has had sex. The sad thing is, most of them regret it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for all of your answers im glad im not the only one who feels that way,you can't compare our times in old days everything has changed, before there was a very big lack of education,and sometimes family perposes,and this is to emily,i respect your point of view but don't you find it very weird, i mean you know that this is like everywhere,and even if it's not,aren't these stories you see here daily as a threat to your world?the virus could spread so fast!you know at their age,they all try to be accepted,and they think that sex is a way to be 'cool'or they say 'everyone is doing it'isn't there any respect for that spirutual body?
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reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (17 November 2008):
 I'm not saying 'don't come on the site and ask for help', I just don't understand why both girls and boys would want to give up their, innocence (right word) so quickly.
It's great people do come on and ask for help and advice, but why not wait?? That's all I'm asking.
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (17 November 2008):
Hey,No, I agree with you completely. I didn't know what it was when I was young(er), and now, in my school (secondary school, year 11) someone in a few of my classes are pregnant, someone in the younger year is, when I was in year 9, someone in year 8 was, it was like 'What the hell is going on here???'. When I was that age (even now) I don't think about it, I didn't know what it was, people are growing up way too fast now, and not getting to live out their childhood, they do what they may think is cool, yes some are in love, but you shouldn't do it if you risk getting pregnant or anything, their lives are not going to be the same. Sorry, I know this is wrong, but I do feel quite strongly about this, I mean, at the moment, these people (my year, year younger) both have scans and everything on their websites, they may be happy about it now, but taking care of a child takes great responsibility, and a great amount of effort.I think some kids think they are older and more mature than they really are, thinking they can handle it. I think they also think they're in love, when really, when they find the person they truly love, they'll probably regret it when they do.This is my veiw. But yes, I agree with all you have said.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (17 November 2008):
 You're not alone... it is really sad to see some of the questions, the lack of education and the bizarre socialization of sex into our elementary and middle school systems. It's upsetting and disappointing, however we just have to accept that it's not exactly the fault of the kids, now is it? They grew up learning these ideas and ideals for relationships/sexual relationship and what they mean and in turn, we have an abundance of boys who feel like they need sex and if they're not having it, they're not cool. We have a lot of girls who feel pressured to have sex to make their boyfriend happy or because their friends are doing it and making them feel like losers for being virgins. This kind of socialization doesn't come out of nowhere... this kind of stuff is learned behavior.
It's twisted up, yes... but we can be happy that a lot of kids are asking questions on this website, getting insight from people who are either in the same situation as them or people who are seasoned and wise from years of understanding. Kids can ask questions here without feeling ashamed or embarrassed, which they might be with their parents, friends or teachers. I think that's great and I think that we do a great job of offering great advice and encouraging better behavior and sexual standards.
My two cents!
India
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (17 November 2008):
The reason you see all the problems here is because this is a website for people with problems.
If you are a happy normal 15 year old with no interest in sex then you don't come on site like this.
If you go to a hospital you will see lots of sick people. That doesn't mean the world is full of disease.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): That's why they come for advice! It's better people ask here for help than just go for it hell for leather. When you're young you're all hormonal and it's natural. I used to think about sex all the time when I was 10 but I would never have considered doing it! I'm 17 and still a virgin actually. I don't believe in lying to kids about sex? What's the point? It's not taboo, it's natural.
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reader, Teacake +, writes (17 November 2008):
 I agree,its very disturbing how young these children are with all the sex. Its not about being open minded, or being judgmental, its a serious problem and these children are obviously very confused, immature, have no parental guidance, and are creating problems that will mess up their lives.
Yes, people long ago were married at younger ages, but they were also more mature, lived much shorter live spans,they worked very hard just to survive, had very large families, didn't have multiple sex partners and didn't have all the peer pressure to get involved in meaningless sexual activity.
The kids these days are really messed up and it is very sad. I doubt years ago the girls were wondering about blow jobs just to make the boy happy. They were making families and stuck to one man. This is total madness! Just because there are times to compare to that were messed up, doesn't make it no big deal.
The world is complicated enough as it is and having all this sex with so many people at such a young age, is really not healthy - as you can see these children are crying out for help since their parents are obviously not paying attention to them or giving them structure or guidance.
Very sad indeed.
I had no idea how global this problem is with children. I've felt compelled to tell many of these children what their parents should be telling them and looks like they are on their own to run wild.
This out of control sexual activity is going to mess up their minds and they they raise children without having a mature standard as to guiding their children - its beyond words really. Disturbing and sad.
No, this is really messed up and the kids are crying out for someone to help them since it seems there are no parents around to help them.
There have also been adults who prey on children thoughout history, and that is no justification to say its just fine and thats how life goes.
The problem seems to be they have no decent adult role models, and might be neglected at home as well. Modern media isn't helping either.
I'm just hoping that the comments here have helped save a few children from going down a road that their families aren't protecting them from.
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (17 November 2008):
 This is a site where people come to ask questions, teenagers of course would be interested in sex issues more than other issues. You might find forums where teenagers discuss music and sports and school issues. Yes, compared to 50s, 60s the world has changed drastically, but in 20's the world was as "perverted" as it is now. And then there is also ancient and medieval times when teenage gay sex was a norm, where girls were married before they even had their period, and then there were the famous french medieval orgies. Nothing has changed, just that the media allows us to hear and see more of it nowadays than 50 years ago. The more such cases are getting broadcasted, the more teens see it, and think it is acceptable, so for the wide spread of sex culture and its alluring image I blame the media.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): We lost all track of common decency and began giving little girls Brats dolls to play with.
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