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writes:I noticed that my bf has been exchanging messages on fb with a girl he's not friends with on fb. She lives in our area according to her profile. I secretly viewed their messages and it seems that they are not flirting or anything. I'm jealous bc she's very attractive and it's odd to me that they aren't friends on fb. Their messages have been going on for a month. She wished him a happy thanksgiving and then the next day she wrote something like: if I'd known it was you I would have been available... He's not responded yet. Am I to think something is up? Do they have a history? Does he want her? :-( help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't know how to approach this. I'm torn! Is he just being nice to her? Does he still want her? Is he just being polite. I don't want him to know I've been sneaking and peeping his private messages. We are great together otherwise. I don't want to be jealous but I am!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011): Why do you want him? He just showed he is a louse. Why would he even ENTERTAIN emails and attention from this woman? That in itself says he is pondering a possibility.
As Honest Men, that are fully in love, have no eyes for another let alone don't invite BS in.
Tell him " I think we are done." Offer him no explanation. Stand your ground. Dump Him.
Move on. You are a Strong, Wise, Secure Woman and when you live this way; you attract similar men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionA female friend gave me the info that she thinks this is a girl he met on a dating sight years ago but they were never really together. I peeped their convo and he was saying how sweet he thought she was for sending him something in the mail. And here I am thinking things are getting serious with us. Does he still want her?
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reader, synchrohobbit +, writes (29 November 2011):
 This is definitely sounding like some emotional fling he is hiding from you. He might be struggling with something else in his life and need this temporarily, but he could also be thinking about your relationship (for whatever reason). I hope you are able to talk to him directly and soon!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was told by someone that they were romantic in the past! He's a lot older than I am, and in his line of work I doubt they worked together. I don't get it!
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reader, synchrohobbit +, writes (29 November 2011):
This is certainly bizarre behavior. Why isn't he friends with her if they talk so much? Noticing your age (and sort of assuming his age) is it possible that this is somehow work-related? Facebook has definitely become much more than an entertainment social media website. If this is a long-term relationship I would bring it up as soon as possible, maybe simply noting you saw it when he left himself logged in. If this is a newer or more casual relationship, consider whatever you must...if you would be okay having fun now and letting it work itself out (for better or for worse), then you don't have to approach the issue.
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