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writes:Questions: Reading interest/body language of a girl. Getting over an infatuation.Background Info:I'm infatuated with a friend I've known over a year now. Even now, I still get nervous around her. We're pretty good friends now.She's generally a shy/reserved person (though not anti-social), but does like to have fun. Somewhat sheltered by her father (still has a curfew..). She cares a lot for her friends.There was a point half a year back where I couldn't really take it anymore, and thankfully that was a time where I had to leave for 4 months. Thought I got over this infatuation (she was out of my mind for quite a while), but it turns out I was wrong when I saw her again. Sad thing is, I'm not quite sure if she likes me or not, which is why I'm writing here. I know the best way is to just ask her, but I'm not quite willing to risk our friendship just yet.It's funny...I get nervous around her when alone, and as a result sometimes I become too self conscious of myself. When we're with friends though, I'm a lot more at ease. There was one time during a meeting (with other people of course), we were just playing around. When we talk, it's usually about...anything. Her family, life, school, whatever.She got sick a couple weeks back, and we didn't really see each other face to face for a while. She tried calling me but my cell phone had no signal, but I called back after wards while I was waiting for a ride home. She didn't really have any reason for calling me, so we just talked a while till my ride arrived to take me home.Earlier this week, I finally see her (albeit somewhat randomly) again. I just sort of went on instinct at that point, gave her a big smile and a hug, and said told her it's been SO long time since I saw her. Then we started chatting...I tried to read her body language to see her reaction - she was avoiding eye contact, her gaze moving around, but had a shy smile on her face. Now, I know her fairly well now, and that's how she usually is when she's nervous - seen how she was when she was with her former crush, and in an interview situation. But I could tell she was happy too.Then a couple days ago, when I saw her again, she greeted me with a big hug and smile.Can you tell I'm starting to over analyze things here? That's what I'm trying to avoid...I care for her a lot, and wouldn't wish for anything bad to happen to her that'd make her sad - maybe it's partly because I'm infatuated with her.I guess my questions are:What're the best ways to see if she has any interest in me at all?And what's the best way to get rid of this infatuation? It's really affecting me, and I need to start concentrating on other things in life.
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reader, Markingbad  +, writes (24 October 2009):
 What're the best ways to see if she has any interest in me at all?Ask her you fool. And what's the best way to get rid of this infatuation?The current one will end as soon as a better one comes allong. If you find out how to control it let me know. Dont confuse it with an obsession.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 October 2009):
Get talking to her. That's the only way. You've got to be brave and just start talking to her and asking her about herself. See how it develops.
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