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reader, daletom  +, writes (18 January 2008):
"Too young" for what?
Obviously, not too young for you to be attracted. Perhaps not even too young for you to love. But mentally and emotionally she is probably MUCH less mature than you are. Most folks observing your relationship (probably including her parents) will assume you are taking advantage of her either physically or emotionally.
In fact, it will take a great deal of effort on your part not to do that. You may be friends. Don't try to start serious dating, or any kind of exclusive relationship, for a few years. Give her time and opportunity to grow and mature. When she gets to be around 18 or 19 (you'll be about 26) the gap in development and maturity will not be as wide and you can work at developing a more substantial relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): if you too love each other then that shouldn't matter. i am 16 and my boyfriend is 23 and we want to be together but we have so many obsticals like our parents. but we aren't givin up and we are trying everything to be together. if you too want to be together you probably have to think about her parents and if that will get you in lots of trouble. And if she is sure she loves you than it should be okay but make sure she really loves you and its not juat a crush. Because she could start liking other guys in her school or something. But i hope everything works out for you too and if you too love each other don't give up to be together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): Hey, Im 17 year old girl and Im in love with a 24 year old guy. He loves me too, we want to be together forever. But its a secret! but i see him all the time! I LOVE HIM! so if you love her then dont let ago get in the way! You should do what makes you happy no matter what its the best thing to do i promise! but if you dont see no future with her then move on, life is way to short to be playing games! sorry just thought i would put in my input. buh~bye...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): until yesterday, I would have said ..yes, she's far too young.
But yesterday I met a girl who I can't stop thinking about...she can't be any older than 12, and I'm 16(m)(almost 17)...I tried not to get too involved...I keep thinking how difficult it would be...but I also keep thinking...the hell with it, life's too short.
So no, she isn't too young...but it might be difficult at first, aruond friends etc.
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reader, sue88  +, writes (31 December 2007):
there is only you that knows you. i would say age is just a number but remember she is still a child in the eyes of the law. if you spent time to get to know her (more) she would probably feel alot more comfortable around you. and vice versa. (that alone would tell you if you were to old for her).
just dont do anything either of you would regret and try to make sure both your families are ok with it. as long as your doing nothing to break the law or to hurt anyone, who else should you be bothered about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2007): I've always gone by the rule of taking you age and dividing it by 6. Then you are allowed to date your age + or - That number. So in your case 22/6=3.66.... so you are allowed to date anyone from 18-26.
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reader, sexyirish +, writes (30 December 2007):
tell you what tell yourself to hang out with her see how you feel in the presence of her friends and parents those are the deal breakers
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2007): i think if you like her as much as you say you do ,and you really dont care about sex at all.. then you should talk to her and then her mother and father , age is just a number sometimes ..numbers not mean anything if you have feeling for this girl ..good luck
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (29 December 2007):
 Yes i think you know yourself she is too young. You may not be interested in sex at the moment but things can change rapidly when in a relationship and you could find yourself in a whole lot of trouble. I really cannot understand why a 15 year old would appeal to a man of 22 anyway. Meet people your own age, someone who is ready emotionally and physically for a proper relationship.
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reader, Jazzle +, writes (29 December 2007):
being only a little older than her (a year) i suppose im a little biased...but if she feels the same and you arent sleeping together...i think its fine...even if you do sleep together, aslong as she is comfortable i think its perfectly acceptable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2007): What do you at 22 have in common with a 15 yr old schoolgirl?
You might think she's pretty same as loads of other guys but your too old for her, remeber what you feel at your age is legal going with a minor this is not the way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2007): SHE IS TOO YOUNG! THATS NASTY! 15 WILL GET YOU 20! REMEMBER THAT!
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reader, LouLee +, writes (29 December 2007):
 Yeah i do think you're a tad too old...wait til shes older and it wouldnt be so wrong.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (29 December 2007):
 Its a 7 year age gap me and my ex had a 7 year age gap so i dont see the problem but as long as your not having sex till she is old enough and ready then go for it but take it slow show people your in it for love not sex.
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reader, steve107 +, writes (29 December 2007):
 leave it m8 not worth the hassel and problems it will bring. you could date a girl that you could go out clubing with and drinking andhave a good times you would be wating years before you could have a proper relationship. use you head.
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reader, PrincessHelp! +, writes (29 December 2007):
 Hi Sweet111,Im Only 15 Myself And Really If I Was With A 22 Year Old Man I Wouldnt Feel Right You May Have Feelings For Her But She Is Only 15. You Need To Try And Move On Be With Someone Bit Older It Will be hard But Im Sure You have Will POwer!PrincessHelp!xxx
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reader, loops +, writes (29 December 2007):
Yes shes too young.at 15 even 16 she mentally will be in a completely different place to you, youve done a lot of the growing up shes yet to do, and I speak from experience ( when I was 16 I went out with a 22 year old). Im now 20 and hes 26 and we work well together and have been together a while but while I was that young he struggled to keep up with me and I felt restricted by him, it became more of a fatherly type relationship with him for a while and it ruined our friendship.Give her some time to do what she needs to growing up wise, and keep her as a friend untill shes a good few years older, if it still works then then go for it but for now she needs to be unfortunaltley sorry to put it so blunt, but the child she is.
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reader, Blondie2792 +, writes (29 December 2007):
Being a 15 year old myself, I wont say its too young but if you dont care about sex then you shouldnt have a problem if your feelings for her are true but you have to think about the consequences of getting together with a 15 year old because most people would see it as perverted and sick plus her parents may not approve. I would say you think this through properly and consider all the posative and negative of getting together with this girl. Hope everything works out =)
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reader, hello1 +, writes (29 December 2007):
 Yes she is, wait till she's 16 then make a move on her. I dont know why you would want to date an school girl anyway, your way out of your teen years.
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