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writes: What would you do? I am shocked that I am struggling in this area but I really am having a problem. I know it's not right so I am not wanting to know if it's right or wrong. I am just curious to know what others would do in this situation.I am attracted to my boss. I dream of him and want to be with him. I don't know if it is sexually or just to simply know him more. I think it is his strength and wisdom that draws me. It is overwhelmingly drawing. And the desire to share with him is so strong. When I leave his presence I miss him and want to talk to him more and more. I will never act on these feelings because I am married and so is he. I would never do these things or act on what I feel because I know the end is only distruction and pain. But do you have any suggestions as to get rid of these feelings without acting upon my desires? I am a christian and am praying daily about it. I cannot believe that I am struggling with this, I am just so shocked. But in all honesty I am really having a hard time. Thanks for your advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2005): Hi,I just want to let you know I am going through the EXACT situation! I too find my married self attracted to my married w/ 4 children boss! I use the situation in a different way. In fact, the crush (that I would never act on mind you) helps me stay engaged in my job. And when I even think about "calling in" ill, the fact that I want to see him keeps me moving on (and money in my pocket). I find the flirting fun and exciting. But that is as far as it goes. I used to be worried too. However, I've turned the worry upside down and created the most positive situation I could out of the whole ordeal. Good luck.
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reader, shania  +, writes (14 November 2005):
 This is just a crush,of course you are attracted to him and just because you are married doesnt mean that you are immune to other people that you are physically drawn to.If you are finding it difficult,working along side him, then it would be best to leave your job.You know that you dont want to take it further and your faith has been helping you to a certain degree so why full yourself that it could be anything more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2005): this is actually quite normal in most situations find out how ure boss feels and u might be able to get wiv him but if he is married dont get wiv him as you will hurt his wife and he cud also have children so be prepared fot the worst gud luk make a decsition of wot u want to do dont be a lemon or in sum cases a watermelon.gud luc rember not to be a watermelon
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2005): it is sooooooooooo wrong. jsut find out how he feels about you and even if he feels the same dont act upon it. maybe your desires are just temporary. spend a day with him and the feelings will soon drift away.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (8 November 2005):
 You simply have a crush on your boss. I advise changing jobs if you can. It will fade away eventually however. Prayer will help.
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reader, beenthere +, writes (8 November 2005):
it's true that you can't help the way you feel. a lot of people feel attracted to superiors. this is just like having a school crush on a teacher. you want someone and no you can't have them. that tends to make people more appealing. but, as a crush, it may hurt for a long time but try not to think about him. concentrate more on your marriage. try to spend more time with your husband. you know you will never act on the feelings for your boss. it will pass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2005): I am a christian and happily married, but still ran into the same situation before. Do not feel shocked - as we are all sinners. It's good that you do not plan to act upon it.
As time goes by, you will find it really really hard not to be attracted to this person, since you interact with him every single day. Drawing from my own experience, you will have to fight really hard against yourself.
My piece advice is pray to God for wisdom and you will surely see how his mighty hand will help you. At the same time, try to treat the other person as a friend, bring your family photos as a reminder, and avoid talking about personal matters as much as you could. In the long run, you will see no one is perfect and you might just have outgrown both the person and that illusionary yourself.
Hope it helps.
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