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writes: What would you describe as 'good' sex for a boy? My boyfriend responds to me a lot on that side of things. But not enough. Obviously to a large extent the answer needs to come from him himself.But I was wondering if, in general, there was anything boys would classify as 'good' sex.And, just so it's known, I've already established with members on here that I'm responsible with contraception in my relationship. So no referrals to that please! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionVery true! Could possibly be that... He does get a lot of time to himself.
I think I will have a conversation with him about that... See what I'm not doing perhaps or could improve on!
His primary enjoyment in the sex at the moment is obviously the pleasure he gives me... But obviously i want to be able to give something back.
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reader, Dazed~Confused  +, writes (16 April 2009):
 What makes sex good for you? Everyone would probably have their own idea....the best person to ask is him....
That being said...find out what his erogenous zones are, what his fantasies are, stimulate him physically and mentally and I bet he'll be on happy guy :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your responses"
I see where you're coming from. I do, in fact, I enjoy it with him veryy much, and i show that.
But I guess the reason I ask this question is because he doesn't. Don't get me wrong, he's very enthusiastic about having sex and gets into it but theres no real indication that he sees it as 'great' sex.
Before and after he exclaims that he loves having sex with me kinda thing. But the fact is that he hasn't yet had an orgasm.
I guess, looking at what frayededges said, it won't be 'good' sex for him, realllyy, until he has an orgasm.
But how can i make that happen?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): it seems its all been said. all i can say is if you want to do something for him ask him what his fantasies are and if you are comfortable (just cos he tells you he wants to do it doesnt mean you have to) in doing one of them then do it. just like damluvaam i dont get this statement "My boyfriend responds to me a lot on that side of things. But not enough". if you are meaning he does things sexually for you that you consider good sex, let him know you like it when he does them. if he is the type of guy who takes pleasure from knowing your satisfied sexually he may be willing to do them more cos he will know hes doing things write for you. it has been said on other answers for different questions, you women know your bodies best and what gets you off and you need to tell the guy what pleases you. if you tell him he satisfies you by doing something it will please his ego
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reader, frayededges  +, writes (15 April 2009):
Honey, "good" sex for a boy is an orgasm. As a member of the species, trust me on this ;)
Sex is a personal thing - you've said it yourself when you said he's basically got to tell you what he likes, although there is nothing stopping you from trying different things and experimenting a little - but if you do introduce different ideas into your sex play, do it slooooowly. A little at a time, and see how it goes. Too much too soon will freak ANYONE out!
Any positive comments afterwards can be used as a gateway to a more open discussion of your sex life as well.
Have fun ;)
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reader, Tewebag  +, writes (15 April 2009):
yeah i would completly agree with denny. i love it when a girl is vocal and really enjoys the sex. it makes me feel great knowing that I am doing that to that girl. makes me feel like i actually know what i am doing but there are some days where X poisiton feels great then the next day it wont feel as great but poisition Y would feel great instead. ask him how he wants you to lay/position yourself.
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