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writes:I am seeing this guy who has a busy schedule as a graduate student. We usually communicate by email but recently I begin to feel that his speed of reply does not match my expectation. I would like to know what is the usual acceptable time for email replies, especially emails that are not urgent but friendly?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009): well, it depends on if this person actually has a life that is not lived in the virtual world. i normally would say that if they respond in a day or two, that it is acceptable. if you are dating, perhaps it should be within a day. most people who i know don't carry blackberries, so you would have to wait for them to return to their home/computer, and write back. to do this in a really short time is asking a lot of a person who has to live a life that isn't connected to the internet all the time....
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reader, didda123  +, writes (23 January 2009):
 I think if you are having a relationship it should be asap but given that you have said he has a very busy schedule i would expect a reply one way or another within the day even if he has lectures all day he will surely have time at night to reply.
I know the social life at colleges can be quite hectic as well but there is no excuse to ignore mail especially from your girlfriend!
If he is leaving it longer than this i would be getting upset as well.
One of my early relationships was with a boy who went away to college but that was long before e-mails and mobile phones we managed quite well speaking on a night or writing letters but these days we have created many new problems for relationships to deal with, we would never have had these problems because the technology was just not there and people communicated in the spoken word much more.
When you next get the chance to reply to one of his e-mails add a bit of fantasy don't give him the impression you are sitting moping alone at home waiting on his every word you must make him thing you are really enjoying yourself without him - ive him something to think about and why not anyway start enjoying yourself more with your friends maybe join a gym and start mixing with new people.
Hope this helps in some way x
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