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writes: I am a teenage girl. I do not plan on having sex until I find someone I love and they love me back. But I wanted to know , what was your 1st time like? How did it feel? How old were you? What were you thinking? Was it someone you loved? Where was it at? Do you regret it? I would appreciate any answers. Thank you:] Reply to this Question
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reader, londonmiss  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 I was 16 :)
I had been planning it with my boyfriend for a month or so and then one day my parents went out and he came round. I was super nervous as I thought it would happen then. We had some wine to set the mood and calm my nerves! Then it just happened and I am still with him now XD
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reader, Genty +, writes (28 July 2010):
I was 20 for my first time
I met an older women online and got the train to her place I stayed the night I was shaking so much I cudnt help it but we kissed and it took me a few goes to get in I was so excited by it all and took me time to get in which ment I didn't go for long say a min lol
but most importently I hate myself for not waiting as I didn't love her or feel owt for her and about a month later I met my gf who I love to bits and wish she was my first time.
So wait til you meet that guy for you that you love and he loves you because it will mean more and will make you more connected with doing it that way
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reader, Behkay  +, writes (28 July 2010):
 I was fifteen when it happen!
It was my boyfriend and I's one year anniversary. We were both virgins. The day was great! He took me to the Biltmore Estate (beautiful!) and we went home and parked on the other side of my street. He put the back seat of his mom's car down (he took hers because it was bigger) and we had bachata music playing (you should liten to some!). We started kissing and he asked if I was sure and of course, in my mind I was like "I can't believe it's happening!" I said yes and bam. It took a couple of tries for him to get in because I kept pushing him out but it happened! I swear it hurt so bad the whole time hahaha. But it was worth it. After he took me home, he gave me a promise ring and we've been together since.
I agree. WAIT! It's so much more special when you do it out of love :).
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reader, Janice25  +, writes (28 July 2010):
 First time was with someone i love and i was 19. but it was hurtful.
yOU CANNot get any pleasure of it, trust me.but u will
further on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): sadly, i regret my first time. it was at a party, i got drunk. only 14/: i didnt love him. you know why? because i met him an hour before we had sex.
the only good thing that happend was that it didnt hurt. if youre really wet, it will be soooo much easier.
guess my story isnt all that great, but thats because it wasnt special.
if you wait like you said you would, youll have a great experience and never regret. and even if you break up with that person, atleast you know that you waited untill you were in a genuine relationship and in love. and to a person you trusted(:
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): My first time wasn't all that special.
To me it felt so goood it made me want to do it more.
I was only 14 well i still am.
I was think what am I doing?
No it wasn't he didn't care for me all he wanted was the sex but i did care for him we never went out.
It was in his mom's car in the backseat right before school he wasn't old enough to drive but he did anyway.
Yeah i do regret it because he never really talked to me again well he kinda talked to me and if i hadn't had sex with him i probably won't had sex with his best-friend and got pregnant.
And see now i don't want sex so I'm going to a retreat true love waits.
So do it with someone who you been with for a while and you abouslty know they care and love you so wait.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (27 July 2010):
 Kudos to you for planning to wait to have sex. There's nothing wrong with being curious or asking questions!
I'm going to tell you the truth, I've never slept with anyone yet.. and I'm a college grad. :-) So many people have sex when they're not prepared and the consecuences can be devastating... pregnancy, horrible STDs, or just feeling sick over being dumped as a one-night stand.
It's not always easy, but trust me, you are doing the RIGHT THING by waiting. I'm proud of you. I have stood my ground and I don't regret it. I don't have a disease and I don't have a kid that I can't provide everything for.
I was raised strict Southern Baptist... I'm still a Christian but I'm open minded. I don't know if I'm saving sex for marriage, and I would NEVER condemn anyone for being gay; it's totally cool to be gay. But, I'm conservative and have strong morals; I wouldn't have sex with just anyone.
I'm sure you'll find someone, though, don't worry. But remember, that when you do, you have to be responsible and understand about condoms, STD prevention and contraception. If you ever get involved with someone, before you do, talk to a doctor or nurse about birth control or STD prevention. (Remember that only condoms can help you avoid HIV and STDs, and the only 100% guarantee is abstinence.) :)
To answer your question, though, I *nearly* slept with my last bf. I loved him with my whole heart. It turned out he didn't really care about me that much, and I sensed it, but I stupidly refused to read the "writing on the wall" and was in denial. It's important to listen to what your instincts tell you about a person.
Anyway I didn't sleep with him and I'm glad I didn't, but I did do just about everything else with him. I was 26 at the time, and he and I lived in different countries.
I had begun to fall for him and he had just given me a gorgeous red rose earlier that night after a hike through the mountains. It was really romantic- the acacia trees, the flowers, everything, kissing someone I loved. It was amazing.
I'm eventually going back to his country because I liked the culture and want to teach there, but I never want to see him again, he's a selfish rat. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): lets see....
my first time, i was 17,
i had been with the guy for about 2 months but we sure as hell loved each other,
it was in his bed, missionary position, listening to love songs(he wanted me to be as relaxed and enjoy it as much as possible),
i didnt actually feel that much tbh, only the, like, 5 seconds of mild stinging you get at the very beginining, but he got me as "revved up" as he could, so to speak ;) so it would just glide in lol,
i regret it now because the guy i was with is a complete loser haha
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