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writes:I have white skin with a light tan, I have medium-long dark blonde hair, I am 13 years old, weigh 40kg and am fairly skinny, I am very bouncy but can change my hyper-ness to help the people around me and will calm when someone needs help and always friendly and happy, but do not like to be pushed over the line, I am very intelligent, so I am a very good listener and will try to keep her as happy as possible, and I just want someone to comfort and look after.What type of girl do I go with? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mark_25_  +, writes (2 March 2011):
 haha, to be honest none of that really matters. You sound like your trying to pick a flavour of crisps! There isn't a type of girl you should be going for. The main thing is whether you like a girl or not, not what their weight, looks, or skin tone is! The only question you should be asking yourself is whether she has a good personality, and that's it. Looks, aren't important as they don't tell you what's underneath. I know it would be nice to be with a stunning girl, but I'd prefer to be with an average girl with a great personality than a stunning girl that's really quite boring. You might think differently but if your with someone you don't really connect with then it's not going to last. It's much better if you go with someone that you can talk to easily and share interests with etc.
If you were going to vaguely look at a "type" of girl, you might want to favour someone that's slightly shy, as that might help calm your hyper-ness down. From my point of view I would ideally like an outgoing girl as I'm quite a shy person, but if I met a shy girl with a great personality I'd still want to give it a go, which is the sort of attitude you need to take.
The idea popular girls with popular boys etc is only a school thing, in reality nobody has a type, and nobody can help who they like or fall in love with.
Anyway, I hope that helps you out :)
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (2 March 2011):
 g'day,
I have a son around your age, I hope you don't think I'm too old to offer you advice.
I can see from your letter that you have some very good character qualities. You tend to focus on what others need, and like to help them. You know where your lines are and are strong enough not to be pushed past them. Your only desire for yourself is some companionship.
At thirteen it is too early to settle down to only one girl. I know that the girls will try to make you chose only one but it is best that you use your skills to hold them off for a few years. The best way to know what type of girl you go with best is to try a lot of different girls. When you go to a social event, dance or party, try to pay attention to several girls. Don't pair off. Talk to them about things they like, get to know them.
In general, look for girls who smile. Happy people make better friends. Everyone is moody some days so give her a break if she has a bad day, but don't waste time on girls who are full of hate and anger. Look to girls who like to help other people. It is one of your best character traits, and it will make a great common ground to build a relationship on. In fact one of my most frequent advices is to join a service club. This is especially important for you. You will find girls there who are genuine, not just pretending. Also it will give you group companionship, which is more appropriate for your age.
You mention quite a bit about your looks and intelligence, I know you don't think this is a social network, so this worries me a bit. Guys and Girls who are too obsessed with their own looks tend to be too egotistical to be fun to be with. Be cautious about that both in your personality and in girls you meet. Never think that you are to good to be seen with a certain girl, or type of person.
Remember that you have a lot of years ahead of you. There is no rush to pick a single girl right now. Have fun and enjoy getting to know lots of different people.
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