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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 March 2011):
 Your very welcome, the best of luck to you. You will get over her in time.
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reader, Mballer  +, writes (13 March 2011):
Mballer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for the reply yeah its hard she just changed her number last night. So she does not have that number any more guess I should have just left her alone then to tex her on msn. Well if she does call I will not talk to her any more it's hard but I know all get over her. Thanks for your help.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (12 March 2011):
I wish you all the best luck on getting tested. It might be just a case that this girl is just messing with your head. She might be finding it very hard to let go of you and therefore she is making stuff up to keep in contact with you. If this is the case and you results comes back clear. Get her out of your life. She cannot go around messing with peoples lives like that and you will be far better of without her. Just keep yourself busy and ignore her calls and she will eventually stop trying. Goodluck.
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reader, Mballer +, writes (11 March 2011):
Mballer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell if it makes it clear im going to get checked out. Some times I think she is just fucking with me because last time we talked she thought she was pregnant and she was not. And I texed her and she said that she does not thank I gave it to her she thanks she had it before me. So there for Im going to get checked out I hope I dont have it but I thank she just does this some times I dont know why she does this stuff to me. I dont understand why she texed me saying she wanted to move on ect but why does she still call me if she wants to move on? And Im trying to move on with my life its hard but I can do it. It helps if you go back and do things that you use to do in life before we meet. Thanks for the help wish me luck.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (10 March 2011):
I really dont think you are taking this very seriously or else you are in denial. You are still asking about you and her relationship, but whats more important here is the HPV virus. She is not to know if you gave it to her or not and it could be that she has had it for years and didnt know and you could also have it and not know. I think you need to concentrate on that more at the moment. Because to me it sounds like you are not taking it serious. This virus can cause cancer in both men and women you do realise that dont you?
If you want to know why she is ringing you up all of the time then ask her. You dont give much information for anyone on here to answer if you can get her back or not. But talk to her and see what she wants. LDR is hard and it takes a lot of work from two people to make this sort of relationship work. So talk to her and ask her what she wants.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (10 March 2011):
 You haven't really given much information about your relationship with her to be able to comment on whether you can get her back. Who broke up with whom, how long did it last, how often did you see each other, were you each others first love, why did you guys break up... etc.
You didn't say that she calls you ALL the time. Maybe she just misses talking to you? I think it'd be best to move on, but you don't seem to want to let this one go... am I right?
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reader, Mballer +, writes (10 March 2011):
Mballer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell the funny thing is I just texed her on msn in she said that she does not know who gave it to her. And she said I was not the one that did give it to her. Why does she still call me all the time I dont understand why she is calling me after she said she wanted to move on, she said that its hard to be in a ldr some times I dont know what to thank if she is just wanting to talk to me and does not know what she wants I just dont know what she wants some times when she calls me at random times. I think she still is lost in her own world Im trying to move on the best I can but its hard to do I still thank about her all the time I dont know how to get my mind off her. What should I do to get her back or can I get her back?
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (10 March 2011):
 She did the right thing by telling you.
HPV is a virus that most girls get in their teens. It can hybernate for years before it shows up. The main thing you need to know is that without treament you could pass this on to your future wife and give her cancer.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (9 March 2011):
"why would she even call me if she wanted to move on?"Why would she tell you she has an STD if she wanted you back?Dude, you need to stop thinking that she's got an ulterior motive here or doing this just to fuck with you. She let you know about the STD so that you could get tested... HPV can stay with somebody for a long time with no visible signs, so please wake up and get yourself tested before you potentially pass it on to someone else.
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reader, Mballer +, writes (9 March 2011):
Mballer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for the help I dont know if she said that she had it when we were going out or not because she has a new bf I guess so he might have gave it to her. Not sure yet but Im going to ask her. Some times I wonder if she does this to fuck with me to because the last time she called me she thought she was prehnant we are in a ldr so I realy dont know what she does so I mean she could be seeing a guy or not but why would she even call me if she wanted to move on?
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (9 March 2011):
Here's a link if you want to know more about HPV
http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.htm
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (9 March 2011):
Ok first off you need to get yourself tested to make sure that you dont have any sexual transmitted diseases. She has admitted that her health has been affected and that she has been cheating on you, therefore now you need to accept that if you have had sexual contact with her then you are at risk of having this infection aswell.
Even though HPV is more serious in women because it can lead to cervical cancer. Men can also get health problems with it as well. Dont be fooled in to believing that if you have no symptoms then you are fine because that is not the case, most men dont show symptoms. It can cause throat and anal cancer in men and therefore the one thing you need to do now is to make an appointment urgently to go and get yourself tested to put your mind at ease.
This girl has obviously disrespected you by cheating on you and now it is possible that she has affected your health as well ( that is if you have both been sexual or had any body to body contact). Therefore I think you know yourself that this relationship is over. Yes I know it is a lot to take in and it must be very hard. But you can do so much better than someone who will cheat on you. You need to give yourself time now to get over her and move forward in your life.
All the best in the future and I really hope for your sake that your test comes back clear. Goodluck.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (9 March 2011):
She's ringing you to tell you that she has a sexually transmitted disease and presumably that you should get yourself tested.
This ain't no game she's playing dude.
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