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*7JOHN
writes:I need help on talking to this girl, I don't know what to say to her because she's on her period and I'm afraid I'll say something and that she will take it the wrong way, or something I need tips, I'm a pretty opened up person too, I can make a lot of people happy and laugh but I don't know how to talk to her or ask her. Please help me out I would appreciate it, thx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): How about asking if she needs help with anything?Grocery shopping or some simple work around the house.Smile a lot.Give her compliments.That is sure to cheer a girl up.All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): Look, there is no one stock answer, and you need to make sure that you're not training yourself to hand over your balls every three weeks.
If she's in pain, treat her how you would treat anyone you really like (or love) who's in pain- take care of her, be thoughtful and do things that comfort her and make her feel better. Just having someone there is a good first step.
My concern for you is that you're asking how to talk to a woman who's on her period. MAN, the world is half populated with women, and any one time 25% (or so) of them are on their periods... you're around them all the time... do NOT try to change how you behave simply based on the fact that they are on their periods... it's a natural cycle and the majority of the women don't have any significant outward effects. Your friend seems to be suffering more than most, but PLEASE do not re-train yourself to be anything other than a good partner...
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reader, puds123  +, writes (26 November 2009):
you should give her a teddy with a hot water bottle in it and tell her that u understand that shes in pain and u hope she get better asap but u are there for hr if she needs anything at all!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): Pamper her a bit. Words aren't needed. Buy her chocolates, her favourite magazine and maybe throw some painkillers in with it too. I'd love that if my boyfriend (or anyone for taht matter) would do that for me when Im on my worst. Menstruation can give extreme pains, or just be outright uncomfortable, as well as making th ehormones go woopsy turvey. Not all females experience it the same way, and one month it can be worse than the other. If she's got a lot on her plate right now it takes very little to tip it over. Of course, it's no good excuse to rip the heads of others off, but some extra understanding can work miracles. Ignore any hars words she says, and I am sure she'll be on her knees begging for your forgiveness when she's over her period and looking back knowing how silly she was.
Dont be offended by things she say, they are most likely not directed towards you but she is angry at her own body and everything around her, and unfortunately you can be the one she ends up lashing out at. So give her chocolates and let her have some space.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): just because a girl is on her period doesnt mean you should treat her any differently..but occasionally ( and i mean OCCASIONALLY because girls should be able to control emotions and not blame bad moods on pmsing) be extra patient with her if she gets moody
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reader, 07JOHN +, writes (26 November 2009):
07JOHN is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's just in pain and I want to cheer her up, and I just met her a few weeks ago where I attend college
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reader, DiamondGirlx  +, writes (26 November 2009):
 OKay, not all women are emotional when their on a period, if your planning on asking her out maybe that might cheer her up, if ur already seeing her tell her something nice about herself to make her feel better, if shes just a friend then act normal she wudnt want u to feel wierd.
if you dont know her and you want to talk to her then this also might cheer her up, maybe complement again with this one,
sorry didnt quite know what sort of girl u were talking about
anyways gd luck with it :) D.Gx
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reader, fishdish +, writes (26 November 2009):
 this q is too broad, what are you trying to talk to her/ask her regarding it: when her period is, where she is in her cycle, if she pms's, does she want to have sex even on her period, what exactly?
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