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writes:Okay so I'm asking out a girl but if she says yes I have nothing to say after so can y'all give me some ideas??? Reply to this Question
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reader, MyDestiny +, writes (24 March 2009):
 You've gotten some great advice from everyboy, and i just want to add on to it
I agree with what "lauris is trying to say, it makes since, but idont really agree going to the movies would be a first date location....
on the first date the girl wants to get to know you and know more a bout you to see if she's really into you...
so more like a restaurant or schedule something funn to do with her,,
on the date just
No. 1:be yourself, dont try to act like somebody you're not
No.2 :Relax, just take a deep breath, everything is gonna go great
No.3 :be polite and a gentlemen (compliments, pulling out her chair, etc..)
No, 4: Avoid awkward moments..you've got to talk and show her that you're enterested, and to get her interested in you...Girls dont like guys who are quiet, they need someone to conversate with them
No.5: Don over talk...yes you gotta talk but, dont just talk about yourself, enteract with her....and give her her time to talk
No. 6: Body language..i know you might think this is stupid but this is a must..you must have eye contact, you've got to look at them when you're talking, dont look down,
and body language, dont slouch, sit up striaght, you've gotta show her you're comfortable
No.7 : if she's seems interested and comfortable..be a little touchy feely, but not too much
like while she's talking across the table put your hand on hers, or if you're walking, put your hand over her shoulder
No.8:Take her home and if she's willing, hit the home run (i dont mean sex), reach in slowly for a kiss...
and if that goes well, you've just survived a great first date, and it can only get better from then.
gudd luck bro
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reader, Luaris +, writes (23 March 2009):
 Take her to the movies so you can spend time together without having to speak a word. Except for the ride there and before it starts and stuff but ask things about her. Dont worry about things for you to talk about, worry about giving her opportunities to talk herself.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (23 March 2009):
 1. What do you like to do when you're not working?
2. Where in the world would you most like to visit?
3. Are you interested in sport... if so what sport?
4. What do you look for in your ideal partner?
5. What really turns you off?
6. What really turns you ON!
7. Where do you see yourself in 5 years from now?
8. (Apart from me...) are you an animal lover?
9. What is your favourite food?
10. Are you close to your family?
11. What is the first thing you look at in a man/woman?
12. Where do you go to socialise?
13. What's your favourite drink?
14. What's your favourite meal?
15. Where would you choose to go on that ideal date?
16. Are you a morning or a night time person?
17. Do you like to entertain and give parties?
18. What's your dream car?
19. Do you like to keep up to date with the news and current affairs?
20. Would you like to see me again
~Eve~
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (23 March 2009):
Be interested in her, ask her questions about her life. Where did she grow up, what work does she do or what does she want to study, ask about family, friends, favorite movies, music, books, etc. Ask her what she thinks about things perhaps you are interested in, try to find some common ground that can start a conversation. Women love it when men really listen. And also, most women are better at conversation than men... so if she asks you a question, don't just answer "yeah" or "umm, no". Try to elaborate on the subject. For example, if she asks you if you like your job, don't just say "sure" say "yes, I really do. and then give her 3 reasons why you like it... your boss is really cool or you love working on ____". Open up about what you think about things. If you are really worried about freezing up, you can always suggest your date be dinner and movie, you don't have to talk in the movie and then it gives you something to talk about afterwards.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): Well! Rule No. 1; relax and be yourself!
I have learnt not to interpret silence as uncomfortable but to wait on inspiration.
It is good to be a good listener, but if a person is shy and needs you to be the one doing (most?) of the talking then I have a few tips.
Avoid small talk. It has it's uses but it's a bit "non-creative..."
One of the oldest tricks in the book is to get the other person to talk about themselves.
This gives them a wealth of things to talk about (they're well qualified!) and it's a great ice-breaker.
Avoid questions to do with status; how old, how qualified etc. and instead concentrate on the kind of things that will give them an opportunity to reveal to you the kind of person they are and the things they hold dear (values).
Never be shocked (even if you are) but take the opportunity to reveal your broad-mindedness and willingness to accomodate other's choices.
And accomodate her you will!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): On a date you can complement her on how she looks and give her a single rose. Then talk about life, likes and dislikes. Make sure it feels like a date, and not just an evening with a friend, so you have to really make her feel happy during the date and at the end of the night you'll get a kiss. If the date went really well it maybe more than just a kiss.
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