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writes:I think it's fairly likely that I will be in a new relationship soon and I'm not quite sure what to do with sex tapes that were made with about 7 or 8 different partners over the past ten years or so. I suspect that if we become a couple she'd be really upset if she found them and I don't want to do that to her, nor would I have any interest in watching them during the relationship. That said, It's a budding relationship... I don't know how long it will last, and I know that I would kick myself if I got rid of them all and we broke up a few months later. Advice? Suggestions? This wouldn't be a dilemma for me if she were a total kinkjob and had probably made a few herself in the past. As it is she is quite pure... which is why I think it would be especially upsetting if she found out about them.
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reader, wiseoldman  +, writes (12 February 2012):
As I approach sixty years of age, I realize that quite soon not only will women no longer be interested in me, but that I'll be useless to them even if they were. (I'm married to a much younger girl- tragedy approaches.) However I'll still remember my younger days, dream fondly and wish; as Shakespeare said, 'Is it not strange that desire should so many years outlive performance?'What you are doing is keeping the modern equivalent of steamy love letters. I'm sure the girls you made the films with were perfectly willing to have it done at the time, and consent ethically can't be withdrawn retroactively. So keep your DVDs but hide them well, as you don't know how this relationship, or any relationship will work out. So years from now when you are old and perhaps alone the films will be a comfort, letting you watch yourself, young, strong and virile romping with pretty girls. As Sir Thomas Wyatt (1503-1542) wrote almost 500 years ago (see how nothing changes?)They flee from me that sometime did me seekWith naked foot, stalking in my chamber.I have seen them gentle, tame, and meek,That now are wild and do not rememberThat sometime they put themself in dangerTo take bread at my hand; and now they range,Busily seeking with a continual change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2012): destroy them regardless of even if you never date again. imagine if you died in a car accident and your family was going through your stuff???
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (12 February 2012):
 I'd get rid of them down the line when and if this potential new relationship gets serious. Definitely burn them when you get married though!
Buy a firesafe and keep them locked in there, along with other important documents so you can pass it off as a important, personal possessions safe. Maybe store them in a basement or attic with other in a labeled box with other items far in the corner.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 February 2012):
 Safe deposit box at a bank if you must keep them.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (12 February 2012):
 Destroy them.. even if she's not the right woman, another woman would probably hate them as well. Destroy them now you've remembered them, or you risk someone finding them and getting very upset.
Keep them only as long as your single, and your sure that you'll remember where they are when your in a intimate relationship and need to hide or destroy them quickly. Keeping old sex tapes are never a good idea.
(eeek... run's off to destroy my own.. lol)
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 February 2012):
 Old tapes are of no value to me but this is not what your question is about. You can put them in a safe and hide it somewhere. I imagine if I am pure myself, 7-8 partners in ten years is quite high.
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