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writes: Ok, I know this topic gets old fast, and that I'll probably hear the same answers that are usually given, but let's have a try and I truly do expect honesty... PLEASE...It's always said men prefer natural beauty, natural looking women. But if that were the case, wouldn't every advertisement/movie/strip club/etc have women like the Dove commercials? I'm not talking about falling in love, because you can fall in love with anyone (be it a model or someone below "average"). I'm talking about physical attraction.Why do men lie about liking natural looking women, when they drool the most to celebrities or girls who've had surgery? (Of course, I know, not all men, but most of them). They all go "Oh, I like natural beauty!", but the moment a girl with perfectly round, perky implants and a flat toned tummy with long legs and a toned butt walks by, what happens? Why do strippers and models and celebrities fit the ideal of a fake plastic doll, with fake breasts, nails, hair? Because it attracts men! So how come men are always claiming they prefer natural beauty? It makes no sense to me... help me clear it out, because I'm feeling ugly, me a real woman, with real features which should look way better than fake girls but they get all the attention. Remember I'm not talking about love... forget about love. Just about attraction, sex appeal, etc. Why do men lie?I mean, to me, it should be the same as comparing real flowers to plastic ones. Real flowers are breathtakingly more beautiful than fake ones and it shows! But it doesn't seem to be the same with women, actually, quite the opposite...Sorry if I sound angry and bitter, I'm just so sad that it's unfair... natural should be better, always... but look at any Playboy girl, the epitome of male desire, and tell me that they're all real... and then men say they prefer natural beauty. How can you explain that?
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reader, hdell  +, writes (7 August 2008):
A man has a divided mind. He loves to LOOK at the "perfect" woman who is very beutiful physically, but he loves to BE WITH (and finally marry) a woman who is natually beautiful in her personality. She gets all his love. But remember, he never loses his interest in looking at (and maybe fatasizing about) those who are physically perfect. A wise wife will let her husband have his mental fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): Oh, I don't see Jennifer Aniston as fake. I see Pamela Anderson as fake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): Guys ideally want a totally hot and totally real girl.
If they can't have that, they'll usually tolerate a little bit of fake-ness if it makes her hotter. But a totally real and ugly girl or a totally hot and fake girl aren't good.
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (9 May 2008):
 Do I watch too much TV ?
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reader, BigSis +, writes (9 May 2008):
Aniston...as in Brad Pitt's ex, recently split from Vince Vaughan, was in Bruce Almighty with Jim Carey...Rachel in Friends, you know...the Greek one, Kojak's God~Daughter.
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reader, Nick838 +, writes (9 May 2008):
personally, I like real girls. Doing stuff like plastic surgery, etc actually makes them unatractive to me. It's really the personality that counts, though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): Who the hell is Jennifer??
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): There is a difference between what type of woman I would want to look at and what type of woman I would want to date. As you requested, I won't talk about falling in love or marrying her.
Ideally, I would want to both look at and date the woman who has natural beauty and nothing fake about her. One who is beautiful without makeup, padded bras and fake nails. The one who is very difficult to find.
That being said, I like to look at the type of women that you describe - the movie stars, strippers or whatever. Those who have gone out of their way to look far more beautiful than they are. However, I would not desire to date any of those women.
The woman who I want to date (let's add fall in love with and marry) is the average woman - reasonably attractive, reasonably nice body (Bs or Cs instead of DDDDDDDDs), natural, affectionate, honest, not self centered, etc. My ex wife, my current wife and a couple of women who I dated were that type of woman. They were very nice, not self centered and great to be with.
As far as not having someone who other men find attractive and maybe desire, I disagree with that. I like that my wife looks attractive. I like it when I see other men look at her. She doesn't have fake boobs, lots of makeup, fake nails, etc. OK, she colors her hair. She is naturally attractive and all of those things that I listed in the previous paragraph.
I have known some women who are naturally beautiful and have all of the things that I desire. This ideal does exist, but there are not many of them.
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reader, les +, writes (8 May 2008):
A real woman is the one. A fake one is the one right now.
Depends on where you are and what he's looking for. If you wanna attract the most guys at a bar, look as fake as possible. If you want to attract guys looking for future mothers of their children, look as real as possible.
However, taking care of yourself, dressing nice, and paying attention to your appearance is kind of a sign of self-respect, and since you want to be with a self-respecting partner, this is why a lot of real, natural women (i.e. unkept, no makeup, etc) get overlooked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): They may prefer natural beauty when it comes to someone that they want to be married to, but I honestly believe that is only because they don't want a wife whom every other man in the world is trying to get because she is every man's dream. Fake boobs, bleach blonde hair, fake tan, fake nails, etc. Men are more attracted sexually to that, but they know those women don't make good wives/partners and they don't want to have to worry about the competition, so for a long term relatonship they prefer a natural woman. That is my opinion, I know a few men probably aren't as sexually attracted to Pamela Anderson (fake) as they are Liv Tyler (natural beauty) but for the majority of men, if given a choice as to whom they'd rather have sex with I'm sure they'd choose Pamela.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): men and women are attracted to perfect beauty wether it be fake or not.
With maturity they can see beauty in different things a laugh, a smile, the hairs on your arm.
Its all in the mind, but beauty will always turn your head.
So both men and women lie.
Good luck
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