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writes: im scared. im not saying im having sex yet but i may be in the near future. im only 14 and im just five foot. i would really like to know some things that can go wrong during or after sex. sideaffects or anything. im very nieve : ]. Reply to this Question
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reader, dangerouslove. +, writes (9 July 2008):
 Your first time is usually the worst. Most girls bleed and it is very unpleasant the first couple of times. Bleeding is usually the worst thing that can happen and you might feel a slight discomfort after having sex. Make sure your ready for sex, before you have it. Don't go into anything you are not prepared for. Stick to the other fun things for a while. Kissing, Oral, etc. Make sure you have protected sex, even if your on the pill to prevent yourself from STDs and all that other .. non fun stop and of course pregnancy. Good luck!
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reader, PractiGal  +, writes (9 July 2008):
 For a woman, speaking about the physical side of sex, the things that can go "wrong" include pregnancy, discomfort, STIs, small amounts of blood, semen and other fluids ending up where you don't want them, getting "caught" by someone, and a complete and utter lack of sexual pleasure during the act itself.Is that what you meant? ;-)You can avoid the "wrongness" by being ~totally~ ready to have sex with your partner. That means knowing what *you* want and not feeling pressured. Do you actually want to have sex with the person? Are you looking forward to it? Are you ready, as in, do you have a quiet place, where you can take your time and get comfortable together and not feel rushed? Do you have some contraception? Do you know (sort of) what to expect? Has your potential partner demonstrated that he (or she) cares about your comfort and wants you to enjoy the sex too? Are you intimate enough with each other to talk about what you expect -- I don't mean 'dirty talk' here; I mean, have you talked about it in words that translate into actions, such as "I'll go buy the condoms on Monday"?The way you've worded you question suggests to me that you have a young man who's leaning on you a little and you want to keep him around, so you feel like you might "have to" have sex to keep him interested. If my hunch is correct, then please read the following sentences carefully:-- Sex with him won't make him love you. And it won't make him stick around.Giving in to sex with someone who is putting the screws on you (no pun intended) only keeps him interested in the sex, not in you, because someone who'd treat you as a semen receptacle doesn't care about you as much as he cares about his own pleasure and release.Pregnancy and infections are -- of course -- huge problems with sex at your age. But they can be overcome. Reliable contraception and knowing how to use the various methods, that's the key.What I think is potentially more "wrong" than you probably realised when you phrased the question is the emotional impact of having sex with someone because you feel you have to. Don't rate yourself that low! And don't underestimate how much of an emotional response you're likely to have after sex with someone. It's a natural reaction, so if the person doesn't really care that much about you, you'll find that you get hurt doubly: first, that the sex wasn't that memorable, and second, that the person didn't care that as much as you thought he should.Short version: stop and think if sex is what you really, really want. If it is, talk about it with him, find out what he *thinks* the sex means between you. And don't even consider it without at least a few condoms nearby.Take care!
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reader, Tremor +, writes (9 July 2008):
 Side effects of sex?
Let's see... one of the better known ones is a thing they call /pregnancy/. There's also a whole host of fun and exciting STDs you can catch.
If you are that naive about sex, then you should not even be considering it. Wait at LEAST a couple of years - it's not as if there's any rush.
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