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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm a female and I just met a girl my junior year and we became best friends really quickly. We were unseperable and did everything together. We had a normal friendship for about 2 weeks. Things soon began to become a different attraction. We ended up kissing one night and ever since then, we pretended we were gay every chance we got. Since then, it wasn't a friendship anymore, it was a type of relationship without the labels. She would ask me if I was gay and I would deny it, but so would she. We always wanted to get drunk together just to have an excuse to make out w each other. We would get jealous over everything and we talked like we were boyfriend and girlfriend. One night we had sex, sober...and she wanted to make sure I was okay with everything that happened and I was. A few day after that, she completely started ignoring me and now we are not friends anymore. The problem is, I'm in love with her and can't let her go. Even though it seems like she has let go, I don't know why. I want to know what her problem is and how she feels about me. Does she like??
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): In my opinion, I think she is confused. She might be confused of her own sexuality, of her own feelings for you, or her own view of the whole situation. Give her time to sort things out, but if you really thing she has taken too long, then go up to her and confront her. If you do this, don't yell or be over-dramatic. Try to look calm and your sinserest and express your feelings towards her. I myself find this beautiful that you say you love her, and I'm pretty sure she would love it to. Since you said you were the greatest of friends, she will be a great friend for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): My guess is that she feels ashamed. She has probably been taught its a very bad thing (hence drinking to feel like it was an alright activity). I have a number of lesbian friends and its sometimes hard to admit to yourself that you are gay or bisexual...especially if you have been taught it is wrong.
Confront her gently. You would know better than I how it would be best...but try to talk to her. Tell her it is ok to feel this way and recommend she talk with someone else about it. She can get counseling (especially if still in college) to get over it or she can even find some people who have gone through it to help her. There are plenty of people who have been in your places before.
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