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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Having trouble 'reading men's signals' recently...Recently I have 'noticed' a couple of attractive men that I have come to know. When I speak to them there is always a 'nervous' discussion or an inability to look the other in the eye for too long when things feel awkward. I am not sure if it is me who brings on the awkwardness because I hesitate a little (although I always appear confident and don't let on) or if it is because there is mutual interest that this happens. Basically, I need to know what signs to look out for when men are interested or flirting. One example of this is a man that I spoke to a few times by phone and the synergy and conversation between us was so positive. The conversations would leave me almost in awe and a large lump in my throat because the connection was so strong and felt special. But when we met again with others around us, he barely made eye contact and almost avoided me. Then when I was leaving, and everyone else was outside, he said bye and kissed me on the cheek when I was about to open the door to leave. He could have just walked out without having to kiss me goodbye if he had no interest? I am so confused!
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reader, billy bilou  +, writes (25 August 2014):
 When a man flirts he smiles a lot. Look at you a lot unless he is of the timid type. All is in the eyes. The eyes are so revealing. I agree that a man will never kiss a girl he has no interest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2014): I don't know what magical signals you're looking for, OP, but you're not going to find them.
He's already showing clear signs of interest in getting to know you if he's talking to you on the phone and meeting up with you unless it's just work related or there's another reason you're in contact.
What's confusing you is trying to read signals. You're looking for "definite" signs when the only ones are asking you out and making a physical move to maul you with his tongue.
OP you're not a teenager and "does he/doesn't he" signals reading crap if for them. People our age just ask. If you want to know if someone likes you romantically then ask them or better yet ask them out on a date.
Unless of course you prefer the "mystery" that is the horrible confusion of someone you like's intentions. Personally I don't, so I just ask them out, ask them if they like me or go in for a kiss the first chance I get.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 August 2014):
 Lots of people have NO problem being AMAZING when you aren't face to face. Once you are face to face, it IS a bit different.
I would honestly spend more time face-to-face with him, because otherwise you will build him up to be this "super-guy" he may not be.
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