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41-50,
*okohama
writes:Me and my ex of 3 years broke up a little over 4 months ago. we lived together the whole time, had alot of ups and downs. but since the break up shes been dating different guys. How do i tell she still loves me and cares if we dont talk, because shes asked for that. there is so much more to this. but going to make this short. what signs,words,emotions are shown or spoke if someone still cares?...please help.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (31 October 2007):
 When someone asks for space it often means that they need to sort something out. If she is dating other men she maybe wanting to be sure if your relationship should continue. Sometimes people feel trapped when they are with one person.
Signs that they are still attracted to you could be thing like smiles or watching you from across a crowded room. Calling you for no apparent reason, "just thought I would say hi and see what you have been up to", etc. Perhaps they inquire as to your present status or your if you have been seen around. If they are close and they tend to watch you from afar. Maybe they are even ignoring you basically but will call out your name or something else to get your attention if you are trying to play it cool.
There are many things which could signify that someone still cares or that they could love or still be in love w with you . Watch for signals. Be it those notice me waves of the hand, big smiles or sutble ones. Dressing up and being around you can signify that someone might still care for you. Stay positive and don't be pushy allow her to sort out her feelings. Be yourself and let her come to you.
If she is dating others and not just one she could be doing what is called bridging. She is seeing different men in order to keep her options open. This keeps her from being exclusive with just one person. It will help her to determine the type of relationship she needs.
It is possible that she is afraid of commitment and needs this space and interaction with other males to be able to figure out who and what she really needs in a relationship. Give her the time she needs and wait it out if you love her.
Best wishes and may God bless you. Stay focused, stay busy and Seek God's will.
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reader, igby  +, writes (30 October 2007):
 your situation is dependent on the reason/reasons for the break up. the fact that she asked for space and is dating different guys suggests she is trying to move on. it also suggests that she does still care, otherwise she wouldnt need the space. she is also descent enough to not make the break up any harder, (angry emails, abusive texts etc), another sign she cares.
sometimes space can be the best thing, it gives perspective. take time to heal and look after yourself. in time you may pick up the communication.
however if you feel like you need to talk to her because there isn't closure, then do so. make sure you know your motives for wanting to talk to her.
good luck. without details i can only be brief.
sorry. x
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