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writes:The reason for the following is because I missed out on talking to my crush today all because I was in a rush. But it's kinda okay I guess because I can plan a bit more what to say to him. So this is pretty much a poll of what to say.a) "Hi my name is X, would you like to go out with me sometime. Thank you, and goodnight." - Short, simple and humourous (like on Friends)b) "Hi my name is X, I like [list a few hobbies]. Would you like to do something sometime?" - Then we could do something we'd both like to do.c) OTHER - Both these lines suck ;)Please help. You guys are awesome. Thank you! x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): Well instead of asking him out, as in a date, you could still ask him to "hang out."Tell him that you heard he was leaving and you are bummed becuase you wanted to get to know him and then ask if you can still do that some time just by having coffee or something. ~SY
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys, I'm back and kinda in need of a plan B. I was, and actually still am, all for the getting to know him first but I've just heard that he might be leaving the place he works. I say 'might be' because the guy he works closely with was the one talking about someone leaving and I think he might have meant the guy I have a crush on. I think that last sentence sounded confusing. I'll refer to my crush as 'A', and the other guy as 'B'.
I'll try that again. 'A' wasn't at his work when I got there. I actually had to be there for something else. But whilst I was waiting, I heard 'B' say something about him leaving and someone else already had a job. There was also talks of contracts. So maybe the someone will have another job by the time there contract is finished? I'm like 80% sure 'B' was talking about 'A' because they pretty much only work with each other.
So now, I suppose one good thing about this is that if I was to be the one to ask him out and he said no, I wouldn't have to really worry about running into him, you know?
So with the possibility that he's leaving and therefore I might not have time to get to know him first, how tragic would it be if I were just walk up to him and ask him out? :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): No, honey, you are right about not calling someone that has not given you their number. That is like a stalker.I think you got the best advice when male anon told you to just get to know him and go from there. Stalking him by locating him online, or invading his personal property, and calling him without him giving you a number is NOT a good plan. That would SCARE him and you don't want to do that. Just be yourself and smile when you talk to him and ask him some questions about his life. You'll do just fine.
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reader, GabiLC  +, writes (15 June 2009):
 This is a second followup answer: Could you leave a note in his locker or one of his books?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWouldn't that seem a bit stalker-ish though? I think I see where you're coming from though. But I wouldn't want him to be weirded out. x x x
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reader, GabiLC +, writes (15 June 2009):
This is a followup answer: You should get his number or try to locate him on a social networking site.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAll great (and fast) advice so far. Thank you! :) Talking to him first and getting to know him seems like a better idea. The only thing is, when he's alone he appears to be busy. Otherwise he has too many people around him for me to have a decent conversation.
The best chance I had to talk to him was today. He was alone and didn't seen busy, but I was in a rush and really didn't have time to even attempt to talk to him - as bad as I wanted to.
But again, thank you for the advice so far. x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): I go with D: male anon's answer.
You are very straightforward and i admire your courage to approach a boy you don't knwo and ask him out, but you may want to charm him first, and get to know him, let him get to know you..
And definitely ask him about himself before you start talking of your own hobbies. He is more likely to be impressed by you if you show inerest in him first.
So how about:
"Hi, i'm X. I've seen you walking around and i just wanted to introduce myself to you get to know you a little."
Goodluck girl!
~SY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): How about...
"Hey there's a new movie coming out! Wanna watch it together? My friends don't wanna catch it because they don't have money and I'm eager to watch it!"
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): Lol, don't ask him out! Just talk to him and have a normal conversation with him and see if he even likes you. Don't rattle off a bunch of information about yourself because a conversation is a two way street, not a list of things about YOU. Ask him questions.
I'd be flattered if some girl asked me out and I'd say yes just because I wouldn't want to hurt her or reject her. Don't you wanna find out if he even likes you first? Get to know him and if he likes you he'll be the man and ask you out.
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