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writes:Heyy aunts and uncles! :Di'm having a bit of a love issue...any help would be appreciated :) well lets see: i'm 14 and i met a lovely guy called Luke at my church, he is 16. i liked him from the start but then we got closer and spent more time together and i just fell in love (well probably not love but you know what i mean). well i decided to tell him i liked him in the form of valentines card and that all went fine he was cool with it and said he was glad i could be honest with him but atm only sees me as a mate and doesnt want anything to get in the way of our friendship. and previously he had said he doesnt want a gf cos he wants to try and stop being a gimp. i accepted that it wasnt the right time and we just go on with our friendship and met up at weekends and stuff. now the thing is i'm not sure whether to try and bring it up again? we had a while where we had not seen eachother cos i had been ill and had exams en i invited him to a bbq and he sad dw bout it cos it might be awkward with me being the only one from church but we started getting closer again. so i want to give us a go but i'm not sure whether to talk to him again or just leave it? what should i say? should i just continue flirting and making jokey hints like i do already and that my family have started doing too! :P thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): Girl there's PLENTY of other great guys out there! Too bad for him if he doesn't see how nice you are and only wants to be friends. He's a good friend, just leave it as that and find a mutual relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): You've done what you can to try and elevate this relationship, but unfortunately, he has chosen not to. If he only sees you as a friend, then chances are, that's always what he will see you as. He may change his mind, but in that case, I believe he will come to you about it. If you continue to pursue him after he's already told you how he feels, then he may feel nagged and look more lowly on you.
He also said he didn't want anythign to get in the way of your friendship. If you keep trying though, I believe it will get in the way, and you will lose him altogether.
Try to move on and find a different guy. You can leave a spot for him in your heart in case he ever chagnes his mind, but don't keep your hopes up and don't sit around waiting for him. You could miss out on something wonderful in the meantime.
Goodluck.
~SY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): no, don't bring it up again, he only sees you as a mate, no more. You might ruin the friendship coming on so strong again and then he'll just want to avoid you so he doesn't lead you on. Find another boy that will like you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): You've done what you can to try and elevate this relationship, but unfortunately, he has chosen not to. If he only sees you as a friend, then chances are, that's always what he will see you as. He may change his mind, but in that case, I believe he will come to you about it. If you continue to pursue him after he's already told you how he feels, then he may feel nagged and look more lowly on you.
He also said he didn't want anythign to get in the way of your friendship. If you keep trying though, I believe it will get in the way, and you will lose him altogether.
Try to move on and find a different guy. You can leave a spot for him in your heart in case he ever chagnes his mind, but don't keep your hopes up and don't sit around waiting for him. You could miss out on something wonderful in the meantime.
Goodluck.
~SY.
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