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writes:soo... my parents rules since i've moved back in are a lot more tight then what i wanna live by bc they are really putting a strain on my relationship with my gf of over a year.. so i've started looking at appartments and i'm going to get one here pretty soon but i owe my parents about 1300 dollars and it all has to be paid before i can move out or they keep the truck they have given me.. so says my mom.. it's my stepdads truck and i think he would understand but my mothers rules are really really putting a strain on our relationship as a couple and both of us get irratated by it.. like last night.. i'm 19 years old a full time working and college student and idk what to do bc i've tried doing what yall have told me to do in the past with advice but it doesn't seem to be working.. i'm in a tight spot.. what should i do with my parents rules bc they're straining my relationship with my gf? Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 If you don't want to accept your parents rules, then don't live under their roof or accept vehicles that you need pay for from them. You can't have it both ways, if you want your independence, pay your own way. Right now you are using a truck that you haven't payed for and you are upset that this is bothering your girlfriend. If your girlfriend had a bit more perspective on things, she would be happy that you had a truck at all. Trucks don't grow on trees, trucks aren't free, you should be thankful that she is allowing you to use it before it's paid for and be grateful, not complaining that her husband would be softer on you. He wouldn't have given you a truck AT ALL if it weren't for his relationship with your Mom, so really, bite the bullet and respect your Mom's request! Stop complaining to your girlfriend about your Mom. That's not a good idea if your girlfriend is ever going to be her daughter-in-law. Start being a good son by following the rules by paying off your debt. I encourage you to show respect and appreciation between you and your girlfriend towards your Mom. That will earn you a whole lot more independence and brownie points than whining. You get treated like an adult when you act like an adult. Does your Mom owe you money or expect you to give her a truck? No! That truck represents cash coming directly out of their pockets. They could sell it, but instead, they are going to give it to you! It's coming out of their pockets! That's life, Hun! You pay for what you get, and no one gives you anything for free! By making you pay off you debt first, She's trying to teach you how life is, and you aren't getting it! If you can't pay off your debt any faster, then ask her if you could earn money towards the debt by working around the house. That would show her that you are taking your debt seriously and that you are serious about paying them back. Actions speak louder than words!
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (16 May 2008):
 If your parents are anything like mine then there isn't much you can do to change their mind. Your are in college and have a full time job and a serious girlfriend, it doesn't sound like you are out making trouble, unless you just left that part out. Are they just over protective? Or is she just controlling? My advice is save your money as much as you can until you feel like you really just cant take it anymore. Chances are there will be a time where you just get too fed up and decide it is time to leave on your own. But trust me, having a lot of money is the best thing to do so stick it out until you have saved up a good amount because living on your own even with a roomate is insanely expensive. Especially paying for school. Pay off what you owe them so you can keep your truck. Leaving now you will have to buy your own transportation in addition to rent, food, school, etc... So pay them off, save an additional 1000 or so (more if you don't have a roomate or depending on where you are moving to), and then move out. I'm in the same boat you are so I understand getting fed up with it all but be patient. Your girlfriend should understand. I'm not sure quite how your mom is with checking up on you but a lot of times I will say I'm going to school or work and go hang out with my friends instead. Be careful doing that though, if you get caught you will get an even shorter leash. Good luck with everything.
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