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writes:My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me a couple of weeks ago because he said he has been in relationships his whole life and just wants his independence. I was caught completely off guard because I had no idea he was feeling this way. Our relationship was close to perfect...same goals, same interests, and we go to the same college. He told me that he could see us getting back together, but that he doesn't think it's right to be with one person forever and just assume that they are "the one." I get the impression that he wants to know what else is out there, although he says he doesn't want to be in another relationship for a long time.I have still been talking to him and I see him almost everyday. He's so nice to me just because he's that kind of guy. I've never experienced heartbreak like this, and I want him back. Does anyone have any suggestions about how to get him to miss me. Should I tell him, write him a letter, give him his space?? I feel like I will die if I know he is with another girl...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): He's probably just feeling that he's trapped in a relationship with the same person for the rest of his life and he's too young for it. Give him time and space and try not to see too much of him or he'll take you for granted. Get on with your own life and maybe try a few dates with other people yourself. You may find that your own feelings for him aren't as strong as you thought they were in the first place. Meanwhile he might realise that "the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence."
You're young and have your whole life ahead of you, concentrate on yourself and not him. Think of all the great things he's missing out on not being with you. Enjoy your friends and your life, don't dwell on him or you'll just be misserable.
THERE'S NOTHING MORE ATTRACTIVE THAN A WOMAN WHO'S CONFIDENT AND HAPPY IN HERSELF.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): Stop torturing yourself.
If the guy wants to broaden his horizons a bit bfore settling down, then let him. If he cares for you... he'll come back because he'll miss the little things.
You are both young, there is a whole world out there to see before you trap yourselves in a life meant for people who've been out and done things, people who can teach the children something about life.
Let the boy go and get over it, because guys and dolls are a dime a dozen and another is just around the corner and... who knows, meybe you two will meet again when you have been somewhere and done something and you'll fall in love all ver again and this time it will stay.
Flynn 24
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reader, BendychickP  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 I know the feeling, and it really is heart-breaking. The best thing you can do is not make this a time in your life, but the time of your life. You are free, so get out there and have fun. If you are nice to this guy, but don't act desperate and needy, he'll see what he has been missing and hopefully come back. Just go out there, try to have a few flings, have fun. Don't let this get to you, the worst thing you can do is make him feel like you are some kind of doll that is so fragile you can't even stand being away from him for too long. This might make him come back, but for all the wrong reasons. Good luck.
Bendy xx
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