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anonymous
writes:I have been a relationship for 6 months: 2 months of staying close and 3 months being far away. We have a long distance relationship because I have to work in another country for 6 months. I have 3 more months to work and then I'll be back.Normally, I keep in touch with him by email, phone call, and internet chat. I send him email everyday. We talk twice a week. He is bad with replying email. He had never call me. Fortunately, after we had got chat program that allows us to talk for free, we talked 1-2 hrs each time.I feel like I do much in keeping relationship going. He doesn't seem enthusiastic to make an appointment to talk to each other or send email to me. I'm an initiator who send emails to update my life, set up date and time for talking. Sometimes I feel like why I have to do this, why my partner doesn't show his willing to keep in touch.I would like his attention more. I would like to talk to him about my feeling but I don't think I'll do well from long distance. What should I do to keep my relationship fresh and get his attention more?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (28 May 2008):
I think you've done all you can do.
The fact that you can still talk for a couple of hours each night on the phone says to me all is not lost.
It may just be that your boyfriend is a bit useless. Does his mum do a lot for him? It could be he's just used to you organising your relationship and thinks you do a better job than he would. Or perhaps he doesn't call you because he thinks you'd be busy off doing exciting things in your foreign country, and doesn't want to be the naggy boy back home going "I miss youuuuuuuuuu" and bringing you down.
Just drop into the conversation that you REALLY enjoy getting emails from him. How it really brightens up your day when you see his handwriting on a letter. If you encourage him to do the right things rather than yell at him for doing the wrong things, he may get inspired.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, a-g55 +, writes (28 May 2008):
 now when i give advice i normaly concentrate on pscological reasoning but with this it jus is so aparent that sex and arousal and that type of feeling is completly neglected. alot of people are going to answer this question by sayin u have to "talk to him about the issue seriously" but what u will be doing is creating an issue which he might not have previously been aware of. he maybe does actualy love u as much as u love him but his way of showing emotion is not by telecomunication. if u watch eastenders u will know that it always clicks on to the break at a cliffhanger. keeping u INTRESTED and KEEN to stay on BBC 1. anticipations. mystery, whats going to happen next? thats what ure thinkin. its a natrual human preset. so what im trying to say is u should make telecommunication intresting and fun all the time because it is boring reading and talkin to sum1 who isnt there. u miss them so much that the feeling on the phone and email becomes negative "i wish she was here" quite a sad gloomy feeling. i reccomend gettin saucy on webcam!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): "What you gain to easily, you esteem to lightly"
Maybe you could try not to send email to often just to see if he's going to say "Hey what's happening here?"
In other words, try taking a step back to see if he's going to take a step forward.
I'm a young hard working man, when it comes to relationship I feel better if I work for it. Maybe it's the same for him?
Hope this help.
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