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*ovalla
writes:I have a problem iv been with a girl for 2 months..now she says she need space I asked why...her bestfriend told her that he loves her after he heard about us...he told her I waited for u 3 years...she says she feels bad about this that he waited so long and she must see him everyday because they study together for 4 years everyday and she thinks she likes him and can end his pain...she is not like other girls i was her first guy who kissed and she says if i choose one of u I will marry cuz she has one rule that is one man for life thats why she dont want to go more with because she can't decide..I called her to much and said things I saw her and she talked to me friendly but no more now.. I told her I give her space but can it be the end or do I have hope...She is a girl who likes to be loved much like I do ..but she is so nice I think she will decide for him she can't resist me live for example when we see us but in phone she can talk other...She feels for him and I think she will decide for him cuz he w8 3years for her what to do to make her decide for me ...Should I let her go or w8 for my chance..She didnt told him this he is just waiting for her ..And something her life will be better with him financial cuz he has more money and stuff but he is a guy i met him ..he can w8 for her 10 years because he can't get such I good girl ..he isn't beautiful can't even walk good...and has no humor why does she feels so sorry about him and cannot let him go...Should I wait or not any opinion is welcome
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reader, povalla +, writes (4 September 2008):
povalla is verified as being by the original poster of the questionToday she told me that for the moment No..When the study begins she will not tell him nothing but just see how its going if they can study together and she thinks of me she will choose me if she don't think about at the time they study together she will not..
I think she will not choose me beacuse I don't see her everyday and he yes they study together ...For me its end but I told her that I wait and don't think of me bad to get me out think of me as good and then be fair..And I don't sit in home to wait for u I have my dreams and want them to fulfill ..I did sometimes things I didn't repsect her example kissing her in public she don't like that and always take this like u don't respect me and think bad about..anyway mabye its better without I'm so angry at the moment I don't want that she comes back I begin to think why should I want a girl like this that says to me she feel for someone else like for me...And what a stupid is he that knows that she was with me at the time that he asked her..and goes for him why would he goes with her when he never be secure that she loves him and don't think about me ...thanks a lot for ur answer ...they help me get out of my mind her ..better for me thx thx for ur opinion
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (4 September 2008):
 I'm glad you chose to take that course of action. Right now, at least she will now that you're also a good guy.
Let's hope she chooses you, just remember it's a 50% chance, so let's just see.
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reader, povalla +, writes (4 September 2008):
povalla is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI said to her that I can't wait like this but I want that u make a desicion and it must be true and I respect it...And I apologized for telling her bad things about her friend ..now i will wait maybe she comes back hope..
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (4 September 2008):
I doubt these will work. The decision will be hers anyways and she might base them in entirely different reasons than what you think.
But what you could try to do is just be really nice to her. Show your best side when you're around her and ALWAYS be a great guy. Never mistreat her. Talk to her often. Open up with your feelings. If you do something wrong, say sorry. Tell her (and show her) you'll always be there for you. You know, just be a great boyfriend....friend.
Also, DON'T critisize her best friend at all. Just keep it to yourself. If you do this, she might think of you as a jerk and just blow you off. Also, maintain a distance from her best friend. Don't pick any fights with him.
Now, if she doesn't choose you, don't blame anyone for it. She based her decision on something, so you have to respect it.
Good luck.
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