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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been with this guy for 9months and Its been ups and downs from the 5th month. When we use to go out he would stare at females and not hear a word I said. I finally got him to understand but it didn't last long. My b-day weekend we went out off town and everything started out good. We get to the place and already I see beautiful girls half naked. I acted normal because he acted normal. On the way back to the car we see a gentlemens club, I kept walking but he didn't. I stop and hear my guy asking what time they open, how much does it cost to get in. I punch him in his balls and some guy laught sayin good shot. I felt sad, hurt, like I was nothing. I do to much for this guy,always washing clothes, cooking, always paying for everything (even his son stuff, who isn't my kid) It was to be my weekend, (he said he was treating me) but I had to pay for everything. He wouldn't even pay 10 dollars for a ride back to the car. It was cold and raining, We had to walk but he wants to go to the strip club and pay to see naked girls. We get back to the car and I'm telling him how wrong he was to do that but he falls asleep in the car. Im crying, long ways from home and just ready to leave. I say quiet to myself I wish I was home and he gets up storm to the wheel and pull off fast like a race car driver. He started back home, I cry myself to sleep, wake up and he's sleep in the back of the van. Wakes up and go to the waffle house leaving me in the car, didnt order me anything. We get home I just don't talk. He gets mad if we go out and a guy waiter serve us. He thinks I look at them when I don't, I keep my head down, pay and leave. I feel stuck and the sad thing about it is, this the only guy who hasn't cheat on me. I try talking to him about watching other girls and he says there is nothing wrong with looking. I agree nothing wrong with looking if I'm not around. I think he is a bully, if I have anything to say I'm wrong for speaking about it. Now we are suppose to go overseas to Bermuda. I'm worried he's going to be the same way. What should I do, dress like the video girls and get even more guys attention, stare at good looking men, or just prepare myself to leave because he is an asshole with an anger problem? Reply to this Question
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reader, ladydela +, writes (23 June 2009):
 well think about it for a second do you love him are YOU sure that he loves you back if you yes then you guys should just try to work it out if worst comes to worst go see a relationship counselor or a therapist if you guys are in love with eachother then you and him should be willing enough to work it out
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 June 2009):
 Hugs to you. I know it's hard but you will thank yourself someday. And always remember, Aunt Tisha told you that you deserve to be treated like a princess, not a doormat. You work on that now--why did you let yourself be a doormat? Figure out why and change that about you.
All the best for you in the future!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): thanks all i just broke up with him 2day. It hurts but I know its 4 my own good
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 June 2009):
Run while you can, while you still have some spirit and feelings left! Just because he hasn't cheated on you (that you know of) doesn't make him the right guy for you. He sounds like a selfish creep to me. I had a friend who told me she would dress up like a clown and run up and down the aisle of the church if I ever decided to marry the wrong guy. I've got my red nose and clown outfit all ready to go to your wedding. He's a loser.
Gather all your courage and your sense of selfworth and do what you know you need to do!
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): Please get rid. The man is a pig.
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reader, desesperada  +, writes (20 June 2009):
 HE IS AN ASSHOLE WITH AN ANGER PROBLEM!!! Honey please dump this guy ASAP. i can guarantee you that he is going to cheat on you. You say he is the only guy who hasn't cheated but he is the type of guy that WILL cheat on you. You deserve to be treated better. He doesnt pay for anything and he would rather pay for a stripper than buy you something to eat or treat you on your birthday???? this guy is a major asshole and if you stay with him I PROMISE YOU that he will keep making you feel like crap and he will always treat you like a piece of garbage.
Also the fact that he thinks you are staring at guys and doing things behind his back means that in reality it is HIM who is cheating and he has a guilty conscience about it.
Take it from me...I have been through this...the best thing for you to do here is to leave this guy alone and move on. Things will only get worse from here.
Good luck, hope this helps :\
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (20 June 2009):
 This story sounds like a joke. I honestly read it and wondered if you were making it up or not. The sad fact is that you are still with this guy. I mean it's usually a pretty good sign that he has a son and the mother isn't even around anymore. Probably because this guy is an ass. So what do you do? Well, this guy will never stop looking at other women and being a total pig. That's just how this guy rolls. And he is also used to insecure women like you taking it because you don't have the courage to just leave. Are you willing to deal with that? Judging by your question, I'm assuming you are getting tired of it real fast. So what do you do? Leave! This guy is not going to change who he is for you. That's the main mistake most women make. You can't change a man. Love is about taking them as who they are. As far as I can tell, this guy doesn't deserve any woman. He needs to straighten his act and act more his age before he can even consider being in a relationship. So if you have any pride, or any common sense, you should get out of this relationship and start the dating scene all over again. Hopefully you've learned a lesson or two from this guy.
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