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writes: I will be 70 next year and I have had no sex for many years since my husband passed away I am also a Christian and my Christianity tells me that sex before marriage is wrong can I please have your thoughts on this I'm not looking to get married and less is the right person but I would enjoy being with a man again I need some help on the situation what the heck should I do ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2016): Life is short...I would guess that God want's us to be happy and make others happy.
I don't believe in anything that uses 'force' as spiritual guidance, unless it's nature's force.
Only you know what is 'natural for you'. If you want to marry before sex then do so.(respect) If on the other hand you just want to feel your human nature, then this is your choice.(Respect).
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2016): I'm always surprised at social mores and how one interprets them. I'm around your same age and enjoy sex whenever possible albeit I don't have any qualms about what one should or should not do. You do whatever feels right for you. Its never about what others think. Your thoughts on the subject might be a bit out dated but they work for you. Is your partner pressing you? If your relationship is moving forward in a good way, I don't see how this subject can be avoided. Its been that way for decades now. Have a discussion with your significant other and then decide. You might be missing out on a fantastic opportunity. Best of luck, Andie Mac
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (24 January 2016):
 This is a decision that you are going to have to make on your own, I am afraid.
Most Christian faiths preach that sex before marriage is a sin. However, in today's society most people do have sex without marriage or even before marriage.
You may want to talk with a representative of your faith (a minister or priest, for instance) to discuss with him your concerns.
But ultimately you have a choice:
1) Get married so that you can have sex with a clean conscious.
2) Abstain in honor of your faith
3) Reconcile what you are doing with your conscious and your faith so that you can enjoy the physical aspects of sex without the burden of guilt.
Really, the choice is 100% yours on this matter and it would be unfair for someone to make the decision for you.
Eddie
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (24 January 2016):
This is a matter of individual conscience to be honest. I could tell you that it’s totally wrong, or that it’s absolutely fine and either would just be an opinion which you would either agree or disagree with. My opinion (as a Christian to) is that if you feel that you want to have sex, you’re ready for it and some-one else wants the same thing as you, I think you should go for it. I know what the teachings are about sex outside of marriage. My issue with them is that they make sex a bigger deal than it is, and a virtue out of denying yourself. I think that if you find happiness with some-one else, whatever form that companionship takes, you deserve it.
You said something interesting: “My Christianity tells me.” Well I’ve told you what my Christianity tells me, and I understand that it’s hard to question whether your interpretation of what it means to be a person of faith, which is often deeply-held, is correct. As some-one who would probably be considered a Liberal Christian, for me at least, losing that strictness on sexual teaching means I see the value in myself and others based on the content of their character rather than their relationship and lifestyle choices. That, to me, is much more what Christianity should be about. Give it some thought and take your time.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2016): I can appreciate you're faith. However you're 70!!
Live life to the fullest. Enjoy all that life has to offer. That includes sex. God understands that we all have needs. If you have the opportunity to be with a man. I say go for it. Have fun. :)
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