A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I live in LA. I met this guy that is married he says hes not happy. We met at a karaoke bar. he was really honest told me he was married with 3 kids two are adults one is 14. i am 24 and he is 35. he is a very nice respectful guy. we talk about his marriage i asked if hes happy at home he says 50/50. so 50 yes and 50 no. i ask him why" he says she dont take care of her body nor herself, he says him and his wife dont sleep in the same bed, they dont even make love and that his wife told him one day "if you lose your look i am out". who says that to there husband if she truly loves him. i felt sad b/c when i see him hes hansome sweet funny he makes me laugh, touches me the right way not disrespectfully. he smiles when we are together and when he looks at me i see in his eyes that he dont care about just screwing me which we havent.The time we spend together makes him wanted and happy and thats what i want him to feel b/c thats what i feel with him. we sit together for hours outside the car just talking about how happy we are together and how he never felt like this, that im his, that he has feelings for me and cares about me. what guy spends hours with you in the cold or car just talking and holding you and dont disrespect you. hes great and wonderful. you may think im brain washed but im not. the moments that i spend with him nothing else matters to me nor him. just the other night him and his wife went out he told me his master plan was to get her drunk since she like to drink so he can drop her off home to spend more time with me so he want have to hear her voice nagging. lol. sorry. i know i know sorry. he also told me that he tried 3 times. i said 3 times what? he said to get his tool up to make love to her but he wasnt turned on by her and he wouldnt get up. when we are together i knows hes up.lol. I ask why he thinks he didnt and he says hes not attracted to her like before and she doesnt make him happy. I need help i am falling for him. i just want tell him. he did mention that he couldnt be mines right now but i told him well why do we feel this way about each other. he says i know baby i just started crying hard and he started to feel sad. i can see it in his eyes he cares. let me make you happy. he always says how happy he is with me and i believe every word. i wish you can see his eyes, its like he feels trapped, he wants to get out of this maze but he dont know what to do or which way to go to the exit. when he holds me it feels right when he touches me and kisses me it feels right and before when we started to kiss it was tight and tense like he was nervous but now he kisses me with passion. his eyes light up with me i feel the happiness when we are together. we get along great, tell jokes and everything.he's the first person i think of when i get up in the morning besides GOD he tells me the same thing.should i feel bad or guilty? what should i do? if he would have said he was happily married i would have said no thanks but hes a great guy thats not happily married and i think positive so i feel like maybe i got a chance to make him completely happy this is my turn, my chance. he always tells me go by the moment step by step. i mean you never know what could happen thats what i say.I need your help. See what happens? I have to think for the best.
View related questions:
drunk, married man, trapped Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, xanthic +, writes (17 October 2010):
 If things were really as bad as he says, he would've left his wife by now. Instead he's feeding you a sob story so you'll feel bad for him, knowing it'll hook you in and subconsciously make you want to 'fix' him.
This may help: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html
A
male
reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 October 2010):
You should be thinking of the worst here.
"She doesn't take care of herself, he's unhappy, she's a nag, they don't sleep in the same bed, he's not turned on by her, blah, blah, blah."
God almight, you are totally brainwashed! you have no proof of any of this. What you see is an unhappy guy who makes you feel good. What I can see is yet another naive girl believing the crap that a married man is giving.
If he was that unhappy, he would have left. Simple.
If he had respect for you, loved you, he would have left.
What man gets his wife drunk so he can clear off and have an affair? That's so cruel and appalling it's beyond belief. If he'll do that to her, he'd do it to you. What a creep!
3 times he tried to her it up and couldn't? Not her. Him. He's the one with ED.
Basically, he's a weasel and you're being naive. He'll never leave her, never love you, never care. You're being lied to.
Walk away with dignity before you wind up with a bad reputation and look like a joke to better men. You are being played.
...............................
|
